Hey guys been reading these subs for a couple of months after my bpd ex fiance left me for another guy after 9 years together.

I have read many posts here and elsewhere regarding attraction, like many of you I was totally blindsided and bought into the blue pill ideal of love lasting forever. We were best friends and had an incredible connection until she had her weird rage episodes, manipulation, gas lighting etc. It's been about 6 months no contact but I'm unsure if I will ever have such a connection with a female again.

I digress, my point in posting is to ask what is attraction? When reference is made here and other places,is it always only talking about physical attraction? Never quite sure what someone means when they say he/she lost attraction to you???

Thanks for the help and the motivational posts it has helped a lot.