I'm in college, in a frat. Girl is in a sorority. In October, we had this party with Girl's sorority. Started talking to this girl, she invited me to a field party the following Saturday to which I invited her to our Semi Formal. Both events went great, we hooked up blah blah blah. We started seeing each other.

We'd get lunch together, I'd take her to the gym with me, etc.

Had a couple of small arguments (stuff she did that I was mad about). We kept hooking up though.

This past weekend, we went to a basketball game together, and on the bus back she laid down in my lap and went to sleep. Next day, she introduced me to her parents at our tailgate (college football). At the game, she grabbed my arm and curled up next to me because she was cold. She locked arms with me on the way back to her place too.

Anyway, on Sunday night, she texts me that she needs to talk to me. She comes over and tells me that there's this guy she hooked up with in High school that she may or may not hook up with over break, and that she wanted closure with him. And she wanted to confirm we aren't exclusive. Finally, she said she wasn't sure if she was gonna take me on her Semi Formal because of an argument we had relating to that. I was super cool and told her to do whatever she felt was right and to be the judge of whatever she thought was gonna hurt me (she said she didn't want to hurt me).

She thanks me for being so cool and leaves. I realize that I'd be really hurt if she does sleep with this guy because I really like her. I text her that I need to come talk to her. I tell her that I would really be bothered if she fucked this guy. She asks me if I what I want is a relationship, to which I say no, but ultimately realize that is what I want.

She tells me she's not ready for a relationship ("not right now"). And we talk for a while. In the end, we lay together and kiss, but the situation was unclear.

Next morning, she texts me saying she wants to talk because she doesn't want to drag me along. I go over and she tells me she wants to be friends, to which I refuse and leave.

I come back without telling her about an hour later to her crying and basically spill my heart out to her. I was insanely in my feelings after I left her place and something deep down told me to go back, but I know that was stupid. Anyways, she tells me "I need time to realize things and understand what I want and what I have". She also tells me she's gonna update me about what happens over break, but not to wait for her. I leave.

She texts my friend the next night basically telling him she's really sad and really wants to just talk to me. Like just tell me things. And she asks him to make sure I'm ok.

Now I'm on break and we haven't spoken since we did in person (1 week ago). I am nearly over her but I am (stupidly) holding out hope she comes back sometime.

I know I have to be distant and what not and I'm gonna be scarce. But I want to know other people's opinions from an outside perspective.

Thanks.