What should I expect when getting into a fight for the first time?

SirKolbath · 2018-06-26T16:27:06+00:00

This is a good way to get killed or injured. Find a Krav Maga or BJJ gym and start training with real people.

Life isn't a movie. There won't be dramatic music and you won't get battered for seven minutes until you lock eyes with your girlfriend and come off the ground with a magical second wind. You'll be locked up in a takedown, end up mounted, and battered unconscious. Once you're unconscious only God knows what's going to happen to you, and he'll probably be looking away in horror.

I've been a self defense instructor for over 20 years. I've watched thousands of street fights on YouTube. Your best case scenerio is a broken nose, Grade II concussion, and/or 2-3 missing teeth that won't grow back (You'll probably swallow them reflexively when they hit the back of your tongue.)

Fight when and only when you have to, to protect life. Your ego should never be involved. You don't fight for honor or glory or bullshit like that. You fight because if you don't someone is going to die. And by the way, that means that if you do fight someone else is going to die.

jtmazari · 2018-06-26T16:19:07+00:00

Get into a “survival” mode where you fight to really hurt that person because your life depends on it

sauron846 · 2018-06-26T18:01:24+00:00

Are you in high school? Why would you want to get in a fight? Who do you think you would impress? Getting in a fight is a good way to get yourself killed. If you're an adult, get a concealed carry permit and a 9mm or better handgun.

Odd18 · 2018-06-26T16:48:59+00:00

So, my father was a professional boxer back in his day, and my brother and I were both raised in an MMA gym, but we never fought competitively--my dad didn't want us too for his own reasons.

But, I've been hit and kicked in the face a lot, and hit and kicked a lot more people in the face myself, and I've seen a fair share of people knocked out cold, but have never been on either end of that personally.

Getting hit in the face really isn't that bad. At least to me. I'd rather get hit in the face with a fist than be kicked well in the legs.

I've only been in a few "street fights," and won all of them. I probably would not be able to do that without having trained MMA for most of my life.

Something that it seems like a lot of people on this board, and in general, don't understand is that training a little bit of MMA will only teach you enough to get your ass beat in a bar fight, meaning that a little bit of MMA training mostly only serves to give somebody a nice false confidence boost. Some people even after a year of solid training would still get their ass beat by some rando in a bar or on the street.

A big problem I've seen is that when you take somebody that's never been in a real fight, and put them in that environment where everything is controlled and there aren't as many wild cards (a gym), they're not as formidable of opponent as they should be when they actually have to fight in the real world. It's a lot easier mentally to spar in the gym with the dude that's been training for 10 years than it is to scrap with some rando at the bar that you don't know from Adam when so much more is at stake. Nobody's gonna stab you in the gym. Nobody's gonna bounce your head off the concrete either. MMA is primarily a sport, don't forget that.

There are other martial arts better for fighting in the real world, like Krav Maga. I mean real Krav, not the shitty Americanized Krav that is taught by some dude with some bullshit certificate and a few months of experience (it happens).

As I've said, I wouldn't have been able to avoid getting my ass beat in my life like I had if it werent for being in a gym since I could walk pretty much. I'd say the most useful takeaway from MMA is learning to close space, and use your hips and leverage correctly. Even if you don't really know how to stand up and fight, if you can close the gap, and take that fag down and get on top (leverage and hips here), you're probably gonna win that fight if the guy is just a normal joe.

Another good thing for learning to close the gap and use your hips and leverage is wrestling. Depending on how old you are, go into a highschool or college wrestling program, and ask the coach if you can roll around. My coach probably would have let you. You'll learn some stuff, and get your ass beat which is important here.

That is what i would start with first. Having a mastery of those concepts is enough to survive most, and even win some, encounters.

Second, I would learn to PROPERLY throw straight punches with both hands and a hook with your lead hand.

Third, I would master your kicks. Like I said, I'd rather be hit with a fist in the face than with a good kick in the leg. Or the ribs.

YouTube can get you started.

Of course, these are all last ditch options. Your first course of action should be to deescalate the situtation and walk away. No need for macho bullshit. You don't need to get stabbed over your masculinity.

Of course, this is all in my opinion. Others might disagree, and that is their prerogative. Take what works best for you.

If you have any questions you can hit me up. If you want to take videos, you can send them to me and I'm sure there's plenty of experienced dudes on here that would extend you same offer.

Edit: Combat Hapkido is awesome as well. Theres some videos on YT about it. When you watch the videos it looks fucking retarded. I thought the same thing until I went to one of the dude's seminars, and quickly learned it was legit as could be.

MiOptime · 2018-06-26T17:40:31+00:00

I'm not going to help you with your fight. Your mindset could use some work though.

I can barely even afford the gym, no way I can save some money for getting into martial arts

This isn't a reason, it's an obstacle. Don't throw your hands up and declare a loss without trying. Is there a way you could make more money with a part time job, side hustle or selling stuff? Could you reduce expenses or sell anything you own?

Think about this seriously. You should lift anyway, and learning a martial art (if you want to) will be tremendously beneficial and a lack of money shouldn't be the end of it. Pursue your interests with relentless force. If you want a step-by-step guide, which you shouldn't if you can think for yourself, I'd recommend starting with minimalism to help save more and get a quick influx of cash. You don't have to be extreme with it.

But, if you really want fighting advice for someone who doesn't lift and doesn't have any refined technique, don't fight. You'll just fuck yourself up. Fights lead to injuries and occasionally deaths and you're extremely likely to lose. Put the ego aside, even bruise it up a bit, and walk away. You should never be looking for a fight.

stylesm11 · 2018-06-26T18:57:23+00:00

Clear out all bowels before fighting, force your arm around the neck if you can't fight

fnordsnord · 2018-06-26T19:46:03+00:00

What you should expect from a fight:

Best results: Broken knuckles and banned from a venue.

Poor results: Broken knuckles, banned from a venue, arrested, assault conviction.

Worst results: Dead or charged with aggrivated manslaughter.

Fighting's stupid.

FireTempered · 2018-06-26T20:41:43+00:00

You get over the pain, but then there are the scars on my face that get deeper as I age. There's no silver bullet.

Throwaway-242424 · 2018-06-27T00:30:51+00:00

Do any of you know a way to learn self defense on the internet?

There isn't. Find a gym that trains a full-contact combat sport like MMA or its component arts (BJJ, (kick)boxing/Muay Thai, wrestling etc.). Judo and full-contact karate are also good options, and particularly useful if you like the whole traditional gym culture/aesthetic but still want to kick ass.

Throwaway-242424 · 2018-06-27T00:36:17+00:00

I just noticed you're still in high school. Does your school have a wrestling team?

blister333 · 2018-06-27T02:21:18+00:00

Don’t fight in school, it’s a terrible idea. Suspension guaranteed and you’ll have some Parents barking st the principal over you. Ntm you shouldn’t be trying to fight this guy in general

Iwannachokekatie · 2018-06-26T16:13:21+00:00

What to expect from getting into your first fight ever? Getting beaten up bad.

88VILLI · 2018-06-26T16:15:55+00:00

realising you should’ve learnt a martial art.

Ricklogical · 2018-06-26T16:06:02+00:00

Spar with friends.

Title	What should I expect when getting into a fight for the first time?
Author	Raigeki27
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Date	June 26, 2018 4:03 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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