Long story short, me [23] and her [21] met on OKC about two months back (she messaged me first and we seemed to click well) and then I went on a date with her last month. I felt like I messed up a lot of things in that date i.e. social awkwardness, not initially recognizing her (she had an entirely different hairstyle to her OKC picture and I saw about 2 people who could have looked like her), sometimes finding it hard to listen to her because other people near us would be talking loudly, etc.

I didn't obsessively message her since; only every now and then. I knew doing so would make me look needy and desperate. Three days after we had a short conversation where I (correctly) assumed she had been busy. I did apologize for not making a good first impression and did go into a bit of detail about it over about two texts. She didn't comment, instead choosing to avoid the subject outright.

The last contact I heard from her was about twenty days ago and it was just a single message. I texted her today asking why she had been avoiding me and I felt like I kicked a hornet's nest.

The text conversation we had went like this:

  • She was pissed off that I 'was always assuming this'. Then she clarified that she appeared online on Skype because of how her Microsoft email service was integrated with Skype and how she'd always appear online when she's just checking her emails.
  • I agreed with her, acknowledged it was a misunderstanding and apologized.
  • She then says it's best I don't talk to her. I offer to leave her alone and invitingly say she can message me again when she's feeling better and has the time. She replied to that by saying she wasn't going to because I upset her by falsely accusing her of avoiding me on her only day off and that I was just going to do the same thing again.
  • I point out that I knew it was a misunderstanding and apologized (twice actually) for this particular incident.
  • She then dragged out the previous conversation from several weeks ago when I apologized for not making a good impression on the date. I clarified I heard no response on that and that I never accused her.
  • She asked me to check the messages.
  • I told her I read over it, affirmed what I sent and clarified I sent no accusatory messages through Skype or OKC. I've since had no reply back. I assume she's cut me off.