What to do. advice ?

Insendi · 2018-04-04T16:46:06+00:00

Drop brown chick, never drop a girl for someone who wants you to commit to them, red flag.

Ricklogical · 2018-04-04T18:23:40+00:00

Continue on, ask her what exactly she feels like she is not getting from your relationship, tell her it's too soon for you to commit to anyone because you still have so much to learn about your likes and dislikes.

You don't want to make fairy tale promises about the future when most relationships fail in the first few years.

Tell her lets just have fun for at least 3 years and then talk about getting more serious then.

Tell her just because she has rushed relationships in the past does not mean it is a good idea to continue doing something.

Ask her what happens if one of you gets an incredible financial opportunity 3,000 miles away? Ask her what happens if feelings change, beliefs change, ask her if she wants to have children with you, ask her if she even knows what kind of parent you will be or she will be.

Basically make it 100% apparent that making future plans and commitments now is foolish because you haven't known each other long enough.

Relationships commonly fail. I've been through more than 30 and if I could go back, I would not have committed so deeply to any of them. We would have been great friends and had a great time, but I would have focused on myself more, much more and created a great life for me that a great woman could participate in MUCH SOONER than the great life I have now, that I have only been building for a few years.

I was so wrapped up in helping others, I never let myself get stable and strong enough to have an incredible experience.

This left me low, low class. Shit friends, shit jobs, shit hobbies, shit education, shit location.

I had to fix all that to get where I am. You will be in a better place for an LTR in the future, but that's not now with the resources you have now.

Wait till you are living an awesome life. Tell her to relax and not worry about what happens in the future, that you are here with her now and having a great time. There is no reason to ruin the end of your relationship, when you have to go back on all your promises because she wants something different or you want something different than the life rut you come to dig with one another.

Deep_freeze202 · 2018-04-04T18:20:21+00:00

She's giving an ultimatum to secure commitment.

R41nmaker · 2018-04-04T18:33:24+00:00

Unless you’re thinking of marrying the Indian/brown chick, why would you care if you break up with her? Keep spinning plates.

Incaahhh · 2018-04-04T20:04:47+00:00

It all boils down to - Do you want to be exclusive with girl 2? Of course you could still choose her and fuck around behind her back but whats the point of that

Title	What to do. advice ?
Author	Throwaway58515851
Upvotes	2
Comments	23
Date	April 4, 2018 4:31 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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