What's the difference between a comfort test and a shit test?

unnaturalcontrol · 2019-08-07T13:56:50+00:00

As a general rule,

If she says "you" then it's a shit test

If she says "I" then it's a comfort test

Edit: MRP has some good stuff on comfort tests too because they focus a lot more on LTR's

Protocol_Apollo · 2019-08-07T13:19:54+00:00

Shit tests happen with club thots/fwbs/plates AND LTRS.

These are about YOU. Testing YOUR FRAME.

Comfort tests come from only LTRs.

These are about HER. Testing how much SHE MEANS to you.

Don’t:

-DEER - be a complete beta and say/act like you will bend in all kinds of ways for her

Handle comfort tests with amused mastery, and then her some pull like a kiss on the lips/cheek etc

Look on the main sub for comfort tests for more info

brabg · 2019-08-07T14:57:15+00:00

There is not a clear line.

Women in relationships feel bad when fearing not being appreciated. So they fish for appreciation, but if it is being given, it may result in a failed shit test.

The way to prevent it is to give appreciation, in your own interest. You ask she to obey something, and reward her for doing it.

So you give to her a reason and a way to get appreciation, in your terms, in your frame, as a leader. She gets a way to get comfort by submission.

If she doesn't get it, she asks for it, setting the frame, the ways and the reason for which she should be appreciated, and then it turns into a shit test.

That's why you cannot be passive, and "be fine" with her doing nothing for you. You have to be demanding and judgmental, so she have a way to gain your gratitude and feeling valued.

She has to know that there is a way to please you, and gaining your approval.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2019-08-08T02:08:39+00:00

Shittests are about you, comfort tests are about her.

Title	What's the difference between a comfort test and a shit test?
Author	_SnNNeKerz
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	August 7, 2019 12:53 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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