I was reading this old thread.

This part of the text caught my eye:

There’s a myth floating around the manosphere about the “good alpha.” A guy who’s hot, charming, successful, interesting, smart, funny, and most important of all, a great leader. Not a fake Red Pill alpha, but a real alpha. A guy who isn’t just out for himself, but a guy who genuinely cares about others, brings others up, and makes others feel good. A perfect-ten human.

They’re not aloof and indifferent – they’re engaging, compassionate, and concerned! They don’t stonewall and tease – they earnestly communicate! They’re not stoic and emotionless – they’re open and honest and their emotions captivate you and make you like them even more! And they’re not perfect – they’re human, but they own their flaws and mistakes and admit them readily, because that’s being a real man.

First of all, do you guys agree that "good alphas" are simply a myth? I personally think there are guys out there like that, and it seemed to me at least that they share a lot of characteristics with your stereotypical nice guy (charming, funny, care about others, admit their mistakes, show emotions, etc.).

So, is the main thing that separates these "good alphas" from nice guys self-confidence and the desire for self-improvement over girls? I'd like to think that in HS I was popular, outgoing, funny and caring, but I ended up being the nice guy and not the alpha guy we admire.

What gives?