When does it get better?

plasticslug · 2017-05-07T18:17:30+00:00

"Better" is a very subjective term that could be 10,000 different scenarios. Sometimes we "better" ourselves but in reality we went from being a level 9 beta bitch to a level 4 beta bitch, and still have leaps and bounds to go before we are actually getting pussy.

Quick example, I went from being border line outcast to surrounding myself with women. The catch was instead of fucking these women I almost the gay best friend.

In my mind, I felt I had made leaps and bounds, from being a bridge troll to halfway decent "man", but again my interpretation of being "better" was overshadowed with my big beta blinders I had on.

I dont even feel bad about the above statement, its part of growing and bettering yourself, regardless of what the progress actually is.

At the end of the day you have to make your self the center of this world, and not judge or measure "better" by other peoples standards or the finicky opinions of random sluts.

TheRedStoic · 2017-05-07T22:22:27+00:00

You're still hoping for previous expectations. (Fantasy)

You know in your head there's a logically better system in theory, but you also know it statistically will not be.

You feel betrayed, by society, norms, women, but most of all yourself. You are only ever angry at yourself after all.

Maybe it was the lack of preparation, the dissociation, the lack of objectivity, the hope for fantasy, the keeping your head down, the inability to detect lies, but it is you that depresses you.

This is normal in coping and adapting. You're coming to terms, and you've just accepted agency but not quite yet forgiven yourself. Most of us go through it.

You'll be fine. Just stick it out, distract yourself with new goals, new successes, and you'll claw yourself kicking and screaming into success.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-05-08T01:06:04+00:00

It gets better when YOU get better.

peppergoat99 · 2017-05-07T22:09:12+00:00

There is a point in life where you just have to stop thinking so much and do something. Really I´ve felt the same way, but the best way to beat negative thoughts is not to argue with them, but simply recognize them and then work on a hobby of yours.

czech_man · 2017-05-08T07:22:57+00:00

I feel like a little kid saying this. But what gets my blood boling is when women around me tell me I'm too negative. Yes, I'm cynical and have a liking for dark humour.

I would probably be more positive if my day consisted of being validated, taken out to fun sctivities constantly, dates and sex with high SMV women. I actually get some pussy, but when those young women admit some of the shit they did, I feel like wondering how much they're not saying. My point is, my female peers are so detached from reality it makes celebrities look like down to earth people.

I guess I have to be more stoic in the future.

And thank you for all your answers.

hangingbanana · 2017-05-08T09:57:53+00:00

It's because you've been raised to be a special snowflake. Get more experience, travel, get some mentors. You selfish Mother cheated you of any role models and that's why you feel like a beta bitvh

Title	When does it get better?
Author	czech_man
Upvotes	7
Comments	9
Date	May 7, 2017 5:37 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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