When they just wont put out..

bobthegreyduck · 2014-05-13T19:39:01+00:00

Why does everyone here want an older virgin but then they get bent out of shape when it's easy to see that they are virgins for a reason? Wife her or next her but don't be surprised you ain't getting any from a 22 y.o. virgin. Jaysus.

hibloodstevia · 2014-05-09T13:57:56+00:00

Stop being a complete and total pussy, and just next her.

Jesus, why don't people read the fucking side bar?

Kyrzar · 2014-05-09T14:57:21+00:00

You have two guys telling you to next her... but if she's legitimately a virgin... She might be worth keeping.

While it's possible it's all lies and BS, if it's the truth, she's more likely to be faithful than some skank. It depends on what you want. If you're interested in finding someone to spend your life with, take some time and try to figure out if she's actually an uptight princess secretly hiding the fact that she's a whore... Or, she might just be a fabled Unicorn.

Your goal is to determine if you're actually successful, since we don't know whether you're a chump or a hump. If you're physically attractive and have had scores of women before, that's probably hump. If you're taking things slow because that's normal? You're probably a chump.

Assess yourself, be 100% honest. If you are in the top 10% of males, then definitely invest a bit of time in this one. Don't break frame, but see where things go. If she's not a skank now, she' wont be a skank when she's less attractive.

Also, be sure about what you want. If you're interested in sexing as many women as possible, then yeah, next her. But if you're looking for someone to have kids with or marry in the future, hold your frame, make sure you vet her good, don't get lazy, don't get so attached you're not willing to leave her if she's not worth it.

Good luck buddy.

DreDawgg · 2014-05-12T07:16:24+00:00

Have fucked many virgins, also fucked many sl00ts. Some sl00t pussy is tighter than virgin pussy. Its just genetics brah. Just find a dick cubby that you like the most and don't let that shit go.

mrust · 2014-05-09T15:54:50+00:00

Read this: http://therationalmale.com/2012/05/11/coquetry/

Followed by the Iron Rule #3 linked in the article.

9 weeks is excessive. Waiting this long likely means the girl has hang ups about sex. Trust me when I say that you have fallen into provider role. If this very same girl went on a backpacking trip, she would be 10x more likely to put out, because it "wouldn't matter" as long as no one found out.

The sex will not be worth waiting for. Find a girl who can't keep her hands off you and has genuine sexual attraction towards you. Start spinning plates and make it clear you no longer see the relationship as exclusive. She is not meeting your needs so you need to explore other options. Either you won through dread game or she stops wasting your time.

rockmasterflex · 2014-05-09T16:21:41+00:00

Dude she clearly has sex hangups. Either she has zero libido or she's got severe mental problems- assuming she is actually attracted to you, there is no way over a period of 9 weeks that you'd never be able to get her horny enough to actually do shit unless she has issues.

So yeah. She's not worth the trouble. Tell her you're going to do other chicks on the side to satisfy your very real, very natural needs.

laere · 2014-05-09T14:34:15+00:00

A lot of those girls have prince charming syndrome and "it has to be perfect the first time" syndrome. Also the whole slut shaming thing. Hell a platonic friend of mine asked me if getting her belly button pierced would make her a slut (she's a religious conservative virgin too).

Also from another thread:

I noticed in some cases, these are women who already know who they are and what they want so they want to secure a partner which in paper sounds like a BPer dream but the main reason is because they know, sometimes even unconsciously, that a beta will be easier to manipulate or do things the way they want them to be done and they won't have to put up with having to chase after a guy who's keeping frame and will not be able to manipulate or negotiate easily when there's conflicts of interest. I suspect they associate tingles from alpha with the fact that they will lose control and they don't want that, so they shun the alpha and perhaps their sexual desire along with it, so they tend to be prudish and don't know themselves sexually because they have blocked this.

-drukpa-kunley- · 2014-05-09T18:51:36+00:00

How many other women have you approached in the last week?

captainbloodd · 2014-05-09T18:29:02+00:00

Looks like you got some good advice already, let me tell you a story.

I knew a guy who dated a virgin for weeks. He did everything in his power to get into her pants, but she just wouldn't let him. She kept telling him that she really liked him and wanted to take it slow, that way when they did eventually do it, it would be special.

He took her with him to a party one night. She ended up disappearing into one of the bedrooms with a guy she had just met that night. He popped her cherry. She gave up the v card to a dude she had literally just met a couple hours before.

My buddy was beside himself when he found this out. Get this, she even asked him for a ride home after the other dude finished fucking her.

a_sponge · 2014-05-12T14:59:20+00:00

If there's any chance you still make her wet after 9 weeks of nothing, then I would suggest some dread game. Tell her how it is. You are a man aren't you? She may be a virgin, but she's not stupid. She knows men have needs to, and you've been extremely patient with her. Don't try too hard to pose it as an ultimatum, simply tell her you've decided it's a good idea to see other people. If she actually does want your dick, she will come to you.

On another note, I get you are trying to be cautious with how aggressive to be when escalating in bed with her since she claims to be a virgin. But instead of saying "I want to touch you", change that up to sound a bit sexier to get her in the mood. "Babe, you're making me so horny right now I can't keep my hands off you" for example conveys the same message, however is more likely to get her in the right frame of mind for escalating to heavier stuff. Your voice is like your 2nd dick. Learn to use it and it will go a LONG way. Go read 'The Sex God Method' right now.

RPSavant · 2014-05-09T19:29:51+00:00

9 weeks at 1 date per week.

takes you to her bed just to watch a movie?

Either she is loca or she is playing games with you. Both good reasons to keep her around for those days when your other girls are busy.

Title	When they just wont put out..
Author	redditched
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Date	May 9, 2014 1:36 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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