Whose frame are we really acting in?

We put in all this work, go through all this shit, and then get real happy when the bitches crawl in.

But whose frame are we really acting in?

Either way the chick loves you for your successes. Why not save time and just buy a wife or bring a chick back from a third world country?

Why is there such a feeling of guilt/loserness associated with what is probably a smart move in terms of time/energy/investment. Even worse, doing so makes you a social outcast.

Are we stuck in the feminine frame regardless of what we do?