Why do I still miss her?

FereallyRed · 2019-05-17T15:58:54+00:00

What do you miss about her. Specifically?

Think about that.

Daydreaming is ephemeral, a mash of feelings and wants and wishes... feels good to daydream, because you don't really "do" anything, just drift on emotion.

Wake up.

Figure out what she did for you, light it on fire, then piss all over that shit to put it out.

It's over.

Doesn't mean you won't think about her, but to MISS her? Fuck that.

WorkOnYourSMV · 2019-05-17T15:59:51+00:00

You're investing energy in things you have no control over. The break up occurred for a reason (incompatibility, someone was unfulfilled in the relationship) and you are still attached to the connection you had with that women and it is completely normal to feel that way especially 3 weeks after the breakup. It takes time to move on and you need to be detached from emotion and understand that she has moved on as well. Continue to work on your SMV and becoming the greatest version of yourself to breed an abundance mindset because it makes you become a desirable man with confidence. Women will start to give you IOI's more as you're on your self improvement journey. Proven as you already fucked 4 other girls since the breakup. Eventually, you will see women (with higher SMV than her) that you won't miss her as much anymore. The 10 month relationship helped you realize female nature / monkey branch swinging and use that as a learning experience to remain detached from feelings in the future.

You need to accept that women come and go in your life. That's a natural part of life, no one is obligated to stay with you forever, that's why there is a thing called death. Don't care too much about women and focus on your life goals because that is more important.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7

It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

Don_Draper27 · 2019-05-17T17:41:26+00:00

Keep swimming fish.

Keep improving yourself and keep gaming and plating.

I broke up with an LTR (HB5) of 5 years and I thought about her a lot as well.

I can tell you that I was not thinking about her when I thew a house party and had 2 Tinder dates show up and ended up making out with 2 new girls.

I was not thinking of my ex when I approached a HB9 at a pool party and was grinding on her on the dance floor while all these guys were giving me high 5's.

I was not thinking of my ex when I fucked a Tinder date, invited a plate's best friend over to my place and then face fucked her with the Tinder girls juices still on my dick.

I'm not sharing this to boast but to prove to you that there are better possibilities out there for you. There are much higher quality girls who will be more attracted to you and will do more for you. There are hot girls out there who will cook for you and bring you iced coffee to your work just so you can drag your balls across their face.

It takes time. After the break-up I didn't fuck my first girl until 2 months later. That's with aggressively DM'ing girls and Tinder swiping and cold approaching.

2 months of being blue balled dude and you've already fucked 4 girls in 3 weeks.

Keep improving the quality of girls you fuck and before you know it, you'll look back and see that your last LTR was less than mediocre and you'll wish that you had broken up sooner.

[deleted] · 2019-05-17T15:53:13+00:00

Time man. Keep doing what you’re doing. Process it all and go out with your buddies.

zeuD13 · 2019-05-17T23:22:53+00:00

I missed my ex from a four year relationship for almost two years even though I had not seen her in that time frame. I spinned plates but still could not stop thinking about her at random times during the day.

Only just recently I have stopped pretty much thinking about her and missing her but that's mainly of a new girl I got acquainted with and I'm scanning for a potential LTR.

X--Man · 2019-05-17T15:56:16+00:00

It takes time man. You shared 10 months of your life together. It could take a month or two to move on. Everyone is built differently in this way. The more distractions you have, the better. The more focused on yourself, the better. One day you will just wake up and realize you are over it, and you will feel great. Keep ghosting her and it will go faster. Block her, don't look her up on social media, etc. Shes dead to you until you are over it. Then, once you are over it, it wont matter.

Irtotallynotrobot · 2019-05-17T18:47:54+00:00

I'm assuming this is LTR from pre trp? You left yourself wide open to get wounded and that's what happened. It's going to take time before you feel better. A lot of time. Keep following the principles an eventually it will get better. It's been a year since things went South with my old oneitis. Its still a painful memory but it gets easier every day still, much better than it was.

PincheeWhey · 2019-05-18T01:16:09+00:00

3 weeks to 10 months is nothing. Time heals all. Keep doing you and do not contact her no matter what.

CharlesChadworth · 2019-05-18T12:22:36+00:00

You are thinking about her while she isn't thinking about you. Just realizing that she has moved on and is getting dicked down by another man should inspire you to search for another woman.

Never ever think she is missing you, as I guarantee you that you will blow this out of proportion in your mind and assume she still cares(which she doesn't) .

Fly your plane (life) straight and level not CFIT (controlled flight into terrain). Because crashing and burning up is what will happen if you give her any more mental space brah.

yallareweak · 2019-05-17T18:42:05+00:00

You didnt fuck 4 girls in 3 weeks. Sounds like you have a lot of free time and what's attractive about that?

Title	Why do I still miss her?
Author	thrownawayRe
Upvotes	8
Comments	15
Date	May 17, 2019 3:45 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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