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Why insist on a low partner count?

Bethefuture9
May 3, 2016
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Title Why insist on a low partner count?
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Bethefuture9
Upvotes 0
Comments 43
Date May 3, 2016 11:19 AM UTC
(10 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/4hmrvw/why_insist_on_a_low_partner_count/
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[–]highoffredpill 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

It's not the n count in itself that bothers me, but what it says about character. Having a high n-count is a warning that they're deceiving of their true nature/pretending to be someone different around you; they're easily influenced by their shitty friends; they lack self control in general and will potentially lash out inappropriately when triggered

That being said, there are some high n-count girls that are decent LTR material. Occasionally, a good girl takes a good hard ride on the CC. As a senior at a party school, I've seen this many times. If it's truly out of character for her, it will be short lived. Then she can redeem herself by coasting on it for a long time (like 2+ years) and having self-control in all aspects of her life during that time. But even then, I'd hold her to a higher standard than I would a low n-count girl simply because of the warning for potential character flaws I mentioned above.

On the other hand, you have to keep in mind that (at least in my experience) you're always gonna be banging a girl before she earns LTR status. That means she's had other hook ups in the past. You're not an exception, she's done it before.

So basically, use n-count as a rule of thumb but give it more weight than you would to other guidelines you go by.

[–]highoffredpill 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link

Oh also this is very specific to age as well. My pool is of 20-22 year olds and like I said, peers at a huge state school known for partying.

Currently, here's my expectations:

1-2 she's probably lying

3-6 is acceptable (I was #5 for my current LTR and I'm very content with that)

7-9 makes me weary and hyper-conscious for other red flags

10-15 is undoubtably a high n-count. She would need to one of the girls I said had a short-lived CC ride that ended a long time ago. And damn near unicorn status excepting for n-count to be LTR potential

15+ is usually ONS status. Occasional plate potential, but plate at max--questions, no excuses, no exceptions. Remember that 1/3 adults are HPV+ and 1/4 are HSV positive. Really don't forget that, 1/4 of these hoes have herpes.

[–]lcering 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Tesing by the CDC has shown that between 14-49 1 in 5 women on average have HSV-2. It's just a few percent in teenage years and 1 in 3 in the 40-49 age bracket.

Counting HSV-1 as well it's 30% amongst teenagers and 75-80% in the age bracket 40-49.

Herpes, both HSV-1 and HSV-2 increases dramatically in peoples 20's.

[–]Bethefuture9[S] -4 points-3 points-2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Who the fuck cares about STDs. battle scars that most alphas wear.

[–]Bethefuture9[S] -2 points-1 points0 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

What if her true nature is to be promiscuous but also to control themselves for her kids. What if her instinct is to find the best mate (alpha) and they just spent a lot of time having fun while looking for him? Whats so wrong with an open marriage where you get the freedom to fuck whoever and so does she?

I hate modern feminism but saying all women need to be the same, and not interested in fucking around is pretty close minded no? Why stuff everyone in the same box?

[–]highoffredpill 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

I respect where you're coming from, if you're not bothered by promiscuity then don't let people tell you you should be. Fuck who you wanna fuck, date who you wanna date. Everything I've said is my opinion and what I've experienced with women in my past. If you don't agree with it, ignore it. I won't lose any sleep. Except the STD shit you gotta be careful. My favorite test is to pressure the hell out of a chick to let you raw dog her. Never actually do it, but if she said it's okay she fails big time. If you're careful and can be sure your girl is too, then go for it

[–]Bethefuture9[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

fast food and cigarettes are far worse than any std you are going to get besides HIV and hepatitis C both of which have similar chances to that of getting hit by lightning.

[–]highoffredpill 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Well if you're comparing poisons, I wouldn't let my girlfriend smoke or date anyone that's not into fitness either

[–]Bethefuture9[S] -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

bought and sold on the fitness craze just like the rest of the sheep. Another tip for you, instead of feeding those useless muscles of your's all day, try feeding the brain.

[–]Bethefuture9[S] -2 points-1 points0 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

why do STDs scare you? I've had many already. battle scars

[–]highoffredpill 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link

For a potential LTR or for yourself?

[–]Bethefuture9[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link

LTR

[–]GC0W30 5 points6 points7 points 10 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link

Because people with high partner counts have difficulty falling and staying in love.

[–]Bethefuture9[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link

doesn't that sound like a beta balled to you? looking for the Disney movie come true still?

[–]SeekingTheWay 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link

you want your LTR to be in love with you, obviously.

[–]Bethefuture9[S] -3 points-2 points-1 points 10 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

Life is not a Disney movie.

[–]Guillz 6 points7 points8 points 10 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

Not for most of us it isnt. But hey, if you wanna go ahead and LTR a Chad rider, dont be surprised when she cheats.

[–]Bethefuture9[S] -3 points-2 points-1 points 10 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link

If you think picking a girl who has a low partner count and hiding her from the world in your little bubble of beta-ness will prevent her from riding an alpha or sigma who comes along, you are wrong. I know I am one and I will gobble her up just like I gobble up the girl who bangs all the time.

[–]Guillz 6 points7 points8 points 10 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

oh boy, youre one of those people

[–]Bethefuture9[S] -4 points-3 points-2 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

I'm trying to open your eyes to how beta you still are.

[–]Fielder572 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Come to AskTheRedPill. ask advice, argue with the advice given to you.

Yup. You're an Idiot.

[–]Bethefuture9-1 point 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

I asked a question not looking for advice. BETA

[–]Fielder571 point 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Okay. Come to AskTheRedPill. Ask Question, argue with the answers given to you.

Yup. You're an Idiot.

[–]SeekingTheWay 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

i am not saying it is. i realize what women being in love with you means and what it doesn't. still, that thing benefits you greatly in the relationship, however fragile it may be.

[–]GC0W30 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

If I want a brood mare to birth my legacy and HOPEFULLY raise then to adulthood properly, the best bet is low partner count, no feminism, low to moderate in chime and a traditional family with an intact relationship with her father.

That is scientific fact.

You asked why people valued low partner counts. I answered.

The community doesn't judge men for wanting a legacy.

Worry about progress in life. Don't worry that guys on here are being beta. Don't run around trying to pick fights. That is unhappy asshole behavior and does not profit you.

[–]Bethefuture9[S] -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

But the answer is not living in the past. Humans change, we don't have to follow the same old pattern to find a successful future. The world is already changing around you, if you want to follow the traditional path then be my guest. Just don't get jaded and blame your woman for evolving. Much of red pill so far seems like feminism for men, beta as hell.

Meanwhile I am going to lead by example and try my best to squash my primitive instincts that are detrimental like being insecure and jealous because a woman I like has slept with more than 15 guys and consider an open marriage.

[–]GC0W30 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Okay, you started a thread to insult people.

Get better hobbies.

[–]Bethefuture9[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Replace insult with educate.

[–]harkrank 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Because why didn't any of the other guys make her his woman? That means something is wrong with her, she wasn't good enough for them. But she's good enough for you?

It is a lie that the right moment in life etc is required for a man and a woman to become a couple. It takes very little of a woman besides being attractive to make most guys consider her worthy of a lifelong relationship. So something is wrong with her that you might not find out before after a year, but you won't have to waste your time because the partner count is evidence of her unworthiness.

No partner count is the golden standard for a LTR.

[–]Bethefuture9[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Or maybe neither of them wanted to stop fucking around? Or maybe she was too good for him? Life is not all about settling down bro, some people like to taste different flavors before they live a shitty boring life.

[–]harkrank 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

When you understand the female mindset better you will understand why humans judge promiscuosity in women but not in animals.

Why would you be eager to be there for her when she feels it's time to become shitty and boring?

[–]Bethefuture9[S] -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

we are more than our programming luckily. I don't give women points for being promiscuous but I also don't whine if they slept with more than 5 like some beta pussy.

shitty and boring is married life, not just for her. it's a sacrifice we make.

[–]RickJamesBeyach 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Because you don't want to be that guy who bought the cow that everyone else in the village milked for free.

[–]Bethefuture9[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

What if the cow has the best milk in the country and everyone else just got a sample but you get the whole cow?

[–]Bethefuture9[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

believe it or not drinking the milk doesn't make future milk worse.

[–]play_time_is_over -2 points-1 points0 points 10 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

As I've gotten older and more experienced I'm starting to think n-count is not such a big deal. It really depends on the girl.

Generally a low n-count will be good, but there are still low n-count girls who sre bat shit insane.

Generally a high n-count girl will be a slut/no self control. However there are some high n-count girls who made excellent wives. By high n-count I mean 10+.

So it can be an indicator however it's not "omg youve been 12 guys GTFO".

A lot of guys feel jealous / inferior / anger if they are with a high n count girl - but this is nothing else except ego.

[–]Fielder57 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

For me it's less the number of partner and more the reputation. I had a friend who dated a girl nick-named Jo-The-Ho that almost EVERYONE had slept with. She was a fine example of the club slut. The fact he bought the rental car everyone else had abused wrecked his reputation almost instantly. He found it hard to date after the reputation because other women where turned off to it. Nobody want's to suck the dick that stirred the STD Pot.

That being said, Sex with a girl who doesn't give it up to everyone after Tequila is a lot more rewarding then sex with a girl who will blow somebody to get off a parking ticket. Going after the low-hanging fruit is pretty Beta.

[–]Bethefuture9[S] -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

There are a lot of women that have a high partner count that are not club trash morons.

As an example, I recently dated an older Korean artist in her 30's who was simply an awesome person outside and in. Sexy, intelligent, independent, and self sufficient. Had she fucked a lot of dudes? Very likely. Was she trashy? No.

You live in a Disney movie, wake the fuck up.

[–]Fielder57 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, pretty much what I just said. Number is less important then reputation. But thanks for the insult.

[–]Bethefuture9[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Ego or being afraid to measure their skills and dick vs other dudes, both pretty damn beta to me.

[–]play_time_is_over 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Isn't wanting to be "better" than the other guys a form of validation seeking? I mean it is good to be better hiwever a man who is better will not need to prove it.

[–]Bethefuture9[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm not saying they should want to flop their dick out to measure it, I'm saying they shouldn't be afraid of it. Indeed, if they are in fact better, they have nothing to worry about. For me I would say a count up to 50 dudes is mostly irrelevant. Over 50, I would worry that she is more like a dude in desires than a female but even that could have its benefits.

[–]-The-Pussy-Whisperer 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Remember the older age is the more her n count is

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