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Wife-Goggles?

little_red_ · 2013-11-10T00:19:27+00:00

It's being thrown around over at RPW, but what is TRPs stance on wife-goggles?...

little_red_

November 10, 2013

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Title	Wife-Goggles?
Author	little_red_
Upvotes	6
Comments	21
Date	November 10, 2013 12:19 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/1q9z3j/wifegoggles/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/wife-goggles.138451 https://theredarchive.com/post/138451

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Speaking for myself:

I think people get comfortable in long-term relationships. Yes, both people can let themselves go. I've been in more than a few long-term relationships where I loved my significant others more as time went on. If I find the right partner, I certain I would love my wife as we aged into our golden years.

how it would apply to an 'ideal' RPW? Ideally both partners would challenge each other to be their best selves and live fulfilling lives. My grandmother supported my grandfather and raised his children. As a result of their marriage dynamics they were able to achieve more together than they otherwise would have apart. My grandfather would never have worried with trivial thoughts of whether or not his wife was desired by attractive and successful men, their relationship was about more than superficial things.

I've watched several friends and relatives leave or have their significant others leave when things got tough, they experienced financial trouble, illness, job loss ect. I don't think they ever experienced love because love is more than a convenience, its experienced, affirmed and grows in the lows in life. Some people are in and out of love, always looking out for their self interest and looking to trading up, I want to avoid those people.

With the above being said I'm not looking at the world with rose colored glasses; I won't let people take advantage of me (you shouldn't either).

With the above being said I've already taken steps to keep my assets secure should I eventually choose to marry. That doesn't mean I'm an asshole, if I get married I'll have a pre-nup with an expiration date to reward fidelity and commitment. The reason I intend to have a pre-nup is because most of the men I know appeared to be caught unawares that their wife was going to initiate their divorce.

The above is just one mans opinion, so take it for what its worth. Whether or not I get married is not really a concern for me. If it happens it happens. If it happens I do not think I'll be concerned with whether my wife ends up choosing to be a career woman or a homemaker. Worse thing that happens is I'll end up alone with three money.

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As far as the actual wife goggles go it's likely an evolutionary trait passed down to most men. This is because the men who stayed with his wife and children and provided for them as they aged were more likely to be successful with their children having children as opposed to a man who would leave his wife and children for another younger mate.

Do you think some women use this phenomenon as an excuse to let themselves go physically and/or mentally?

Most women are not aware of this phenomena. Therefore, it is not a reason they would let themselves go.

I would say that most women who let themselves go in marriage do so because their husbands have not held them to a high standard (and they don't respect their husbands enough to adhere to the standard), or they frankly don't care and/or want to opt out. This is why it is important to be a masculine man with standards.

Human beings are naturally lazy, and unless you have a driven personality (which not everyone has) they will take the lowest common denominator. It's not difficult to sit on your ass, watch TV, and order a pizza as opposed to going to the gym, home cooking healthy meals, and improving your life productively.

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