I had a post here that was fairly popular last week about a girl I was seeing. I clearly have oneitis and was in over my head.

Short version of last post: She had a boyfriend when we first met, she immediately dumps him when I decide fuck it and kiss her one night. She makes it clear that while she did dump her boyfriend, she will not be able to just jump straight into a relationship after a 2 year relationship. I have been seeing girl for about a month, spending way too much time with her. This all starts to get to me due to the fact that we act as if we are in a relationship, but since there is no official title, we could both technically see other people and it wouldn't be a problem.

Issue is, I actually really enjoy this girls company. I bring up the fact that we may need some space because I am being fooled into something that isn't real. She agrees that she doesn't want to stop seeing me, but if that will help ease my mind we should hang out a bit less. HERE IS WHERE I WENT HORRIBLY WRONG. I end up bringing it up again. She sees this as insecurity and tells me that we need to step back a little bit but that it doesn't mean things are done between us.

She still messages me at this point. Still sends hearts. I told her that we need space and that we shouldn't talk as much but she just responds with "Messaging isn't a big deal dork."

So my question is, what would be the solution here, besides the obvious (Seeing other girls). To me, if someone wants to be with you, they wouldn't need time, they would just go for it. I'm thinking, when and if she messages me again, I may just read it and ignore it. Maybe not talk to her for a few days and see how that works. She generally ALWAYS messages me first.

I know the typical answer would be to drop her and pursue other chicks, but I genuinely am interested in this chick and want to see if there is any way to make her regret this "space".

I am slightly new to TRP but I know the responses will be along the lines of chase other girls, but is there not another way?