What does everyone think of this?

I just realized that when I was BP and "made love" that the women were responsible for coming with ways to please me. Just like outside the bedroom, women like a man in charge because it relieves them of this. If they are told what to do and "used", then if the guy is not satisfied, it is his fault.

Of course, there are other reasons they like this (dominance, etc), but I believe what I wrote plays a relatively strong role.

EDIT: should read "were responsible for coming up with ways ", but also with coming up with ways for cumming.