Hey asktrp, how would you handle the following in the most healthy manner possible?

TLDR: I broke up with my GF then “back peddled” in the morning. Any chance to continue a healthy relationship?

The situation:

My girl tested/played with me me during sex when I was drunk last night. Sucking my dick she says “you’re boring” in a very serious and sad way then continues to suck my dick.

She had been trying to argue all night accusing me of not caring about her and always flirting with other girls.

Instead of just going to bed, or playing around with her and having a good time with it, my emotions somehow decided the rational thing to do of course was to say “okay I’m done with this”.

Unemotionally I said let’s break up or something along those lines and went to bed, leaving her to go to bed crying. It came out of nowhere, shocked me almost as much as it did her when it came out of my mouth.

She was super sulky and upset, keeps asking if we broke up in the middle of the night as I’m sleeping. This morning she gets up to leave and says “will I see you tonight or is that it?” I told her just to go home and she’d see me later.

Since then she’s sent me texts saying she loves me and doesn’t know whats gotten into her. But she really didn’t do anything wrong. I’m the one that screwed the pooch here.

We haven’t gotten into a whole thing about it either way.

Is there any coming back from this or should I just stick to my words and call it quits? Will she be unable to trust me as a guy going forward?

Or is it possible I can play it off like it was just an outburst on my part? Essentially pay no mind to the situation. Realistically I know that part of being a young dude is learning and maybe sometimes fucking up like this and I can’t take myself all too seriously, but I care for both myself and this person and I just want to know how to proceed.

I noted the following:

  • it’s important to stick to my words
  • maybe all I really did was tossed her emotions around a bit, so maybe it isn’t all that bad after all

In general, my gut feeling, based on the books, posts and the sidebar is that doing this sort of thing is a big no-no. What say you guys?

Believe it or not this is the second time this has happened in the last 6 months, where I’ve “threatened” break up. Last time nothing bad seemed to happen. Swore I would never do that again, didn’t seem to learn my lesson. I’m working on it