Honestly lost... could use some advice

curvedbymykind · 2022-02-01T04:30:10+00:00

what comments did she make that made you butthurt

TangoHack · 2022-02-01T15:40:43+00:00

I've been in several LTRs, on and off. Some of them for months, other lasted several years. And then back to being a bachelor again, chasing pussy and following Red Pill advice. I am 40+ years old. My advice to you is: relax. Enjoy the relationship while it lasts. Don't anticipate the break up so much. It will happen when it happens. In the meantime, enjoy the ride. Let yourself "catch some feelings" for her. That's Ok. You are not a robot.

But, always be prepared to be a bachelor again. Because it *will* eventually happen. And being prepared means: always maintain your physical fitness (Go to gym, lift, go for regular walks... you don't need to look like a male model. Just look healthy and don't get obese). Dress with nice, new clothes. Keep your male friends, even if you get into a LTR. You will need those male friends later, when you are single again. They will help you to avoid post-break up depression. Keep your financials in order: have a job, stay out of debts, live frugally. Invest your savings.

If you do this, you can enjoy the LTRs while they last. And have the confidence that when you are single again, girls will come to you, without too much effort on your side. You will still have to chase them a little bit, but just by following those basic habits I mentioned above, you will be in the top 20% or 30% of men's SMV.

When you are alone, you can go monk-mode. Learn new things, read books. Plenty of books. Avoid too much exposure to social media. Learn. Educate yourself. Try no-fap. Until a new girl appears in your life.

This may be your first LTR experience. Relax, and enjoy it while it lasts. It's Ok. You will survive, and new pussy will come afterwards. Good luck!

IntelligenceLtd · 2022-02-01T02:42:40+00:00

it would be very easy to take the piss but tbh I came to the red pill after my first serious relationship ended horrifically (as in living, travelling together etc) my n count was high double figures and bar understanding how to lay pipe and inadvertandly social circle game i was pretty much as BP as you are now what id say bro is I dont know how you discoverd this sub considering how BP you are but props to recognising what pitfills might happen to you before they happen. Theres no two ways about it rn you are BP as they come but youve got remarkable insight into it and what you say about lack of self love is very common.

rather than bang on ill give you is quick bullet points of advice

you can be totally honest and upfront from day one and you will never have to feel bad about seeing other girls
it is biology nothing more these dating stratagies are just ways to maximise outcomes for propogation and survival not anything actuallu critival to hapiness
I would say in your case for the sake of finding out what you like and getting some more experience fuck around
eventually though youll realise quality trumps quantity and long term plates, gfs, meage a trois etc is a much better way of working out how to be better in bed and how to navigate the hardest parts of RP and your psyche how you feel etc
because quality, compatibility and mutal atrraction are harder to find get used to being alone and loving yourself
READ THE SIDEBAR not just skim it it, go back to it. It will probably seem alien to you at but as you start dating youll see you might have intuitivly known it all along and if not then youll start to see the patterns
as far as this girl goes idk id say take a break give an excuse like youre feeling sad (which you are) focus on other things to give yourself the power back, like someone quitting smoking. If you think you can handle it go for it, its clearly young love and sometimes its better to make those dumb mistakes and be heartbroken

pumpthehoedumpthehoe · 2022-02-04T16:31:11+00:00

I’m in a similar situation. My current LTR didn’t take my virginity (I was spinning plates before I met her) but I have severe oneitis for her. It’s a con of being with a girl you perceive to be a 10. We’ve been together for just under a year.

All I can say is you have keep an eye on the door my friend. It sounds like you’re in the honeymoon phase - may even be some love bombing going on. My girl literally used to wake me up to blowjobs and make me breakfast in bed. I don’t say this to sound pessimistic but it will not be like this forever. You must be ready to leave. I know how hard that sounds - please believe I do because I’m going through the same shit. But the mindset you have is going to expedite the inevitable. Your putting her on a pedestal.

You don’t think you can do better. That’s not true though. You were able to fuck this girl, and you can do it again with an even hotter chick. Once you grasp that, you’re golden.

Title	Honestly lost... could use some advice
Author	St31nway
Upvotes	3
Comments	11
Date	February 1, 2022 1:24 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	/r/newTRP
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