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How to quickly move on from ex?

August 26, 2021

I’ve been reading RP content for a while to know that moving on would simply mean fucking 10 other girls. But how do I move on knowing that I invested my emotions to this girl?

I focus on my purpose but I still think about her sometimes, it’s irritating. It made me lose frame and strength by messaging her if we’re really not together anymore. It feels weak but deep inside I didn’t want to lose the relationship.

How do I forget about her, I still talk to her mom and also message her but she doesn’t give a single fuck about me which is sad. Maybe I just don’t want to feel alone, maybe it’s just the sunk cost fallacy in my head. Idk now.

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Title How to quickly move on from ex?
Author RisingTigre
Upvotes 2
Comments 5
Date August 26, 2021 2:46 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/newTRP/how-to-quickly-move-on-from-ex.1095116
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[–]mortalnutshell 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

One of the hardest parts of the RP journey. I'm sure most of us have been through something similar.

Nothing is guaranteed to work "quickly" when moving on from a past girl but you need to just take the L and move on bro.

Time is your best friend, and it gets better over time. Also, you need to abandon the oneitis beta scarcity mindset. Don't think of it as losing her. Think of it as that was fun while it lasted, onto the next.

From the way you write, you still haven't fully internalised the RP awareness and it sounds like you lack abundance.

You need to stop contacting her, her mother or anyone associated to her. Work on your self, learn to love appropriately and not dependently, elevate your mindset to one of an abundant masculine man and most importantly, never forget AWALT and she's not yours, its JUST YOUR TURN.

[–]kriskros18 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Step 1: Do what chicks do - no contact & burn all memories. Start with deleting her moms #. Step 2: Find a hobby to distract your mind. Can’t think of any? Hit the gym again. Or Read a book(stoicism), Or go for a walk. Or drive to a city near you and walk around. And be social.

Rebounds are just band aids or temporary distractions(#2). They may help build abundance mindset, but eventually you have to focus on yourself.

[–]DWS33_ 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You don’t quickly move. It’s called time. One day you’ll wake up and the pain of not having her anymore will not sting as much or at all. This is a time where you solely focus on yourself and put yourself first. Find something you love doing and do it every week. Pick up a new hobby, like mixed martial arts. Go out, meet new women when you’re ready.

You won’t forget her. However, the relationship will be put in the back of your mind as you get more experienced as you get older. This might be your first case of oneitis, but it won’t be your last

Good luck.

Edit: First thing first you must stop talking to her mom. You don’t owe her nothing. You’re still holding onto hope that her mom will talk to her and get y’all back together if you keep talking to her mom. If you truly want to get over it. Stop it. Now.

[–]Meloxian 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Reframe. Perspective.

What does she matter in the grand scheme of your life? She’s one girl of hundreds. She took up a tenth of a tenth of a percent of your time.

Will you think of some random girl on your deathbed?

[–]Give_Praise_Unto_Me 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It is the sunk cost at work. Cut contact with her and her mom, no reason to keep communicating.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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