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I need some advice

January 20, 2022

I feel like I have completely fallen off the rails. To be clear, I’m not here to discuss women at all. That’s not a problem I have. Instead, I come here asking for advice on how to be the best version, or at least a better version, of myself.

Over the past two years I’ve created and grown a YouTube channel, I won’t share what it is, but it’s been making me good money. Roughly $2k per upload. However, since I have no boss, clear direction, or self-discipline, my mental health has taken a dive recently. I smoke weed everyday. I used to take edibles a lot until I took too much and vomited all over a parking lot. I get bad munchies and often eat 4000 calories throughout a day when stoned, so I’ve gained weight. I’m 6’2” 195lbs of fat. It may not sound bad, since I’m not fat in appearance, but it’s not muscle, that’s for sure. I’ve tried quitting weed many times but always come back to it. Perhaps I should throw all my weed away? I’ve tried weaning off before and end up just going crazy until I’m out, only to then have withdrawals and buy more. It seems like time passing causes my motivation for quitting to disappear. Because I spend most days getting high, I barely work on my YouTube channel. I upload once a month even though I could upload 2-3x a week if I simply tried. For some reason, I lack motivation and discipline.

I don’t go to the gym, in fact, I don’t do anything. I don’t know what to do. I have an LTR, she’s great, but when I’m alone (we don’t live together, I live alone in a one bedroom apartment while she lives with her parents still, we are both 23). TV shows and movies bore me now. I can’t sit still and read a book. Video games are too tedious to be fun. There’s nothing to do where I live outdoors. I just feel depressed. Perhaps it’s the weed. Perhaps it’s the fact that I’m wasting away my YouTube channel’s potential. But there’s no joy in life, and I have no direction in my life. I have no true father figure or role model. I have no one in my life I truly respect. Everyone I have ever met seems more flawed than me. Even by coasting along with my channel, I still make more money than anyone I know.

I guess I need guidance, so I’ve come here. Right now, my life feels like it’s at rock bottom. I used to think life sucked as a helpless teenager trapped in school with girl problems. Now I feel like there was never a point to any of life

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Title I need some advice
Author giantsandworm
Upvotes 4
Comments 6
Date January 20, 2022 4:48 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/newTRP/i-need-some-advice.1096539
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[–]wontstopnorwooding 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

2K per upload must be pretty good if it’s not a larp. Hope the content is dynamic and high quality. You should be able to afford gym access right ? Do that and start lifting + dieting dead srs.

[–]giantsandworm[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Should I quit weed cold turkey? And yes, that’s data from over 80 uploads across multiple years

[–]lmann81733 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

If you have to ask the answer is an emphatic yes. You have to listen to that little voice telling you to stop. Your addict brain will try to rationalize why you should ignore it (psychological addictions are real.)

Anyway, things aren’t as bad as they seem, you’re young and successful romantically and financially and you’ve fallen into some bad habits. It’s not that uncommon. You can change your habits, you just need to be motivated and committed to do so.

I went through a similar period and the irony is the lack of discipline is making you’re life much more unhappy than it otherwise would be. Get up on time, go to bed at a reasonable hour, workout, eat right, pursue some interests. Most people will not be happy without doing most of that, no matter how much pussy they get or money they have.

[–]i-reddit-ck 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Go to the gym. Read a book(start with audio books). Start writing down your thoughts(journal). We do something when we have motivation, or when we get inspired. However I read in a book where simply taking action will also motivate you. Tell yourself to do one productive thing for 2min then stop. Eventually 2min will turn into 20min and so on. Just do something. Quit the weed, save your money and hit the fucking gym, stop being a bitch, you’ll regret these poor decisions later down the road.

[–]IntelligenceLtd 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The weed is a problem but the fact your doing so much is indicative of a deeper problem and bro it sounds like your getting depression, are you adhd anything else that gives you fatigue. My first advice would be to try find a psychologist for mental health help (betterhelp or similar are cheaper) and maybe even one based or performance coaching or who is also a life coach to help you get back on track.

My second advice is and this should be done consecutivly is focus on little bits of self care: you dont have to go straight to the gym fully but do some pressups, pullups (get a bar) sqauts, planks and short yoga/streching (especially if your on the computer all the time) this is my fav short video for desk jockeys (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vLPfP1oRJFM) learn meditation, try wim hof breathing https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tybOi4hjZFQ (cold showers are god tier) the key thing is build up little by little as appropriate dont see it as a big thing and dont punish yourself for not doing it.

message me if you need any help

[–]Greater-Somalia 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Go to hamza YouTube video he struggles like you

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