My girlfriend is currently studying Physiotherapy at University. She has 2 more years to go. Physiotherapy has many routes post-grad, some of which are:

  • paediatrics - treatment of infants, children and young people
  • neurology - includes multiple sclerosis, Parkinson's disease and stroke patients
  • neuromusculoskeletal - includes arthritis, back pain, sports injuries and whiplash

Me and my girlfriend are very serious. She wants a family, I want a family. We discuss children, marriage and other more serious topics. We have met each others parents and so on.

Now, I personally have an objection to her profession. Call me insecure or whatever, but I believe what I am feeling is totally normal/ understandable. I hate the thought of her going into sports injury/ massage stuff. I can't grasp the thought of her going down a sports injury clinic route, basically massaging almost naked men, some of which will undoubtedly be inappropriate ( I hear of this sort of thing). Admittedly, yes, I am territorial, but this is besides the point. Am I not being reasonable in not wanting my girlfriend to be massaging almost naked men as her profession?

This woman is potentially going to be my wife, the mother of my children, and the supporter of me. For her day to day job to be a sport massager just feels totally weird to me.

How should I approach this? Am I being reasonable? Yes, I understand this is a "profession", and it should not be sexual/ inappropriate, but the truth is, my now girlfriend and potential wife is going to be massaging topless men. That does not sit right with me, and I doubt it ever will.

Take away the professional aspect from it, would you ever let your girlfriend or wife massage another mans legs/ back/ torso or wherever? Likely not. So why should I accept that just because it's in a professional environment? It's still the same thing, she is still massaging other men.