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My ego controls me

March 4, 2022

This is just a vent post.

There's this girl I went on a few dates with. Long story short she was withholding sex 'playing it safe' were her words. On the 4th date I was done. She isn't that attractive but I would have sex with her but she isn't a 10 put it that way.

Now we stopped dating and have still communicated (I'm doing work on her house, yea..). Anyway the point is it kills my ego we didn't have sex and I can't let it go.

I'll be in her company and be like "this girl ain't all that" it's no biggy. Or look at her in a certain light and be like "na she ain't even attractive."

Then I'm at home and I can feel it chewing away at me.

Then I know if I saw her again all that chewing away that occured would be gone and I'd be thinking 'meh' again.

I can't break this cycle I've been doing it with girls for years.

I should add there was a part of me that thought if I pretend to want a relationship I could have eventually got her into bed but that kills my ego even more because if that fails I'd feel an even bigger fool. I'm at a dead end..

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Title My ego controls me
Author GoldGuch
Upvotes 2
Comments 4
Date March 4, 2022 7:55 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/newTRP/my-ego-controls-me.1104150
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/newTRP/comments/t6ret9/my_ego_controls_me/

[–]Rude-Block 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Bro you care way too much. Whenever you feel it chewing away at you at home, just jerk one out and you'll be good.

Try to find a different girl to be interested in & increase your value. If you increase your value, this girl, if she was ever interested in you will change her tune. There's actually nothing left to do except to forget about her in a sexual way. That is the only way to move on and also the only way she will ever want to have sex with you

[–]GoldGuch[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Appreciate the reply bro you are right. What isn't helping is this job of hers has dragged on for at least three weeks longer than it should have so I can't not talk to her until she pays me at least othwise I'd delete her details. I keep reinvesting interest in her because she isn't going anywhere until the work is over, it's a fuck up.

[–]SJGekko 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Finish the job and treat her purely as a client. Once the job is done and you are paid, don’t hit her up. No interactions at all. Focus on your improvements, other women and the gym. If she likes you eventually she will hit you up and fish for a date. Invite her over to your place and escalate. If she shows up and nothing sexual happens. Politely tell her it was fun hanging out but she has to go. Don’t be whiny about it. Just move on.

[–]GoldGuch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks for the reply my man sounds like a plan

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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