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Where'd I slip up? Ghosted despite great initial meeting

September 11, 2021

Met with this girl, we hit it off well. I found her IG and asked if she was the girl I met with earlier. I said I regretted not getting her number, and she said she was also going to give me her number but was regretting that she didn't ever since.

I suggested we meetup sometime this week, she said to let her know when and where.

I then texted "Do you know how to skateboard? I skateboard in LOCATION most Tuesdays after 5. I know a good ice cream spot too đź‘€"

Been three days no response. We both hit it off really well before hand so I'm really not sure where I slipped up. I assume I'll just take this as a loss but it wasn't like we texted long or some shit.

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Title Where'd I slip up? Ghosted despite great initial meeting
Author Redditor6512
Upvotes 6
Comments 8
Date September 11, 2021 5:09 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/newTRP
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/newTRP/whered-i-slip-up-ghosted-despite-great-initial.1095134
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/newTRP/comments/pmb9tb/whered_i_slip_up_ghosted_despite_great_initial/
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[–]Give_Praise_Unto_Me 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Skateboarding is not a chick activity.

[–]Meloxian 3 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Next on the adventures of captain autismo…

[–]Redditor6512[S] 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

thanks for the help

[–]Meloxian 13 points14 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

You want honest help? Fine

It seems like you miscalibrated how well the interaction actually went based on her response. Which is why I made my comment.

You showed desperation/lack of courage by not actually escalating irl but by creepily finding her on IG later on. And showed lack of abundance by telling her you “regretted it”. If she wanted you to have her number she would’ve given it to you.

But fine. Go cold for a week or two. Hit her up one more time, ask if she wants to do (insert activity), don’t give away all of the details (ex: don’t say eat ice cream afterword) you’ve gotta keep some mystery.

If she doesn’t at that point then move on.

[–]Redditor6512[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks for the genuine reply mate. Lesson learned

[–]GunzBlazein180 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I don’t think OP messed up in his approach. He seemed honest and nonchalant, and judging by how he got her number, it worked. The mistake I see however was the unusual skateboard message with the cringey eyeballs. A more better approach would’ve been “let’s grab some coffee” or heck maybe even a movie. On the first date you want to keep it simple.

[–]Meloxian 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Getting a number doesn’t mean she likes him. Girls give guys numbers all the time just to fuck off, I get the idea behind it. Men are physically larger and stronger than women, and there’s a lot of fucking psychos out there that will do crazy shit when they’re rejected.

If some creepy dude won’t leave you alone then giving him “your number” to get him to leave and let him down gently (so he won’t get pissed and fucking murder you or something), is a small price to pay.

Also a movie date is a terrible idea. Allows for no escalation. Action dates are a lot better.

[–]GunzBlazein180 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think there’s a thick line between “we hit it off well,” and her giving him her real number because she was scared of being murdered, but maybe in schizophrenic wonderland I can see what you’re saying.

I personally like movie dates, they’re not everyone’s thing but it was a suggestion.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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