Bottling a cold-approach is due to lack of willpower. Willpower is controlled by a part of your brain called the pre-frontal cortex. There are several behaviours that can strengthen this. Here are 6 of them.

1. Get plenty of sleep

Sleep is like fuel for your willpower. It replenishes during sleep just like any tired muscle does.

Being underslept leaves your brain's stress receptors unreplenished, leaving willpower extremely low. Notice how you eat tons of junk food while you're underslept.

To give yourself the best possible chance of approaching that hottie, get at least 7-8 hours sleep.

2. Give yourself proof, not promises

Experiences have a much bigger impact on our sub-conscious than words.

I could type out all the reasons why girls aren't scary, but you'll still need to see this for yourself before you TRULY believe it.

The brain needs "proof not promises".

If you're worried about what 'other people will think' about your approaches, try screaming and clapping your hands in public as a warm-up. Notice how people look for three seconds, then go back to worrying about their oen lives.

If you're worried about what the girl herself will think, you just need to approach a lot and gain a ton of references of nothing bad happening.     

3. Approach within three seconds

The brain's only real job is to keep you alive. That's why it fears the unknown.

The longer you wait between deciding to do something daring and actually doing it, the more time you give your brain to flood your head with excuses.

Speed is the best solution to beat this overwhelming sensation.

Remember 'the moment I said hi I already won' and that having the smoothest opener is massively overrated. Just get in there as fast as possible and trust in your faculties to work out what to say.

4. Have a basic plan

If you're not sure how a pick-up works or what to do, that'll overwhelm you out of approaches.

That's why a basic structure for What To Say After 'Hey' can improve your confidence and therefore your willpower.

The basic daygame structure I use is

'Open',

'Build Attraction'

'Screen for logistics;

'Build Comfort'

'Close'

With that (and a ton of knowledge/experience of how to do each step) in the back of my head, I don't need to worry about 'what to say' and certainly won't let this overwhelm me out of an approach.

5. Put yourself in scary situations all the time

Whether you’re approach pretty girls, public speaking or jumping out a plane, it's always the pre-frontal cortex that provides willpower.

The more you use this, the stronger it gets. Just like any other 'muscle',

That’s why you hear so many motivational speeches about ‘expanding your comfort zone’.    

Regularly putting yourself in scary situations won't just improve your approach anxiety. It will also create a more exciting life.

6. Improve your wealth, health, hobbies, social status etc.

Not so much about the pre-frontal cortex, but...

Improving your life in general will make it easier to convince yourself that you're doing the girl a FAVOUR by approaching her.

Personally, it's good to always have this attitude. After all, women will nearly always love a compliment if it's coming from the right place.

Nevertheless, being an absolute baller in other areas of life certainly can't hurt when it comes to curing approach anxiety.

Conclusion: Go out and approach a lot

Most of these suggestions can be completed by doing tons of cold approaches.

If cold-approaching is highly unfamiliar to your brain, it'll try and talk you out of it.

Once you've got a ton of approaches under your belt, you'll have:

  • references of cold-approaching going well
  • a solid knowledge of what to do
  • experience of seeing the girl and approach immediately

These will all help improve your approach anxiety better than any words on a page ever could. So, get yo ass off Seddit and start approaching this weekend!

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