Like many of us on this sub, I have struggled with approach anxiety for a very long time. I recently overcame this problem after I heard some advice that Tim Ferris (podcaster and author) gave about getting yourself to lose weight. I just tweaked what he said to make it apply to pickup. There are two options for this method. The first one is for the guys out there who just need a small kick in the ass to get themselves to take action. The second is for the guys with an extreme fear of talking to girls. Here is the method:

Option 1- Give a friend $20 and tell him to not give it back to you unless you approach a girl within the next seven days. It is important to give yourself a deadline, or else you might just keep putting it off. It is also important that you find a friend who will absolutely not give the money back if you don’t do it. If you’re a cheap ass like me, this should be enough to get you to do it.

Option 2- Take a few incredibly embarrassing photos of yourself and then give them to a close friend. Tell your friend to send them to the last person who you would ever want to see the pics (boss, mom, grandma etc.) unless you approach a girl within the next seven days. It is important to make the photos so embarrassing that the only possible option is to go talk to the girl. So do something like take nudes of yourself.

For me, there was no way I could just talk myself into approaching. I had to do something out of the box to finally take that first step. I do not think I ever would have gotten over approach anxiety if I did not have a big incentive and my friend holding me accountable. Go try this and I bet it will work for you too.