One of my role model for success with women is a buddy of mine who is incredibly good with women; he always has been and always will be. One thing that makes him successful is the fact that he’s always having a great time, he will literally get up and dance over to the fridge to get another beer or he will just start dancing whilst you’re chatting at parties, give you a big cheesy grin and encourage you to do the same whilst he yells “yeee” in a ridiculous voice. It took me a while to realise why he was so attractive to women but here’s the run down.

This guy is so happy and focused on having fun that he will literally derail any frame that doesn’t fit into that narrative. If we’re all sitting around and things sort of die down when we have girls around, he’ll perk up, stick on a good song, start clapping and singing, nudge the person next to him to join in. He’ll do anything to introduce his frame. It disrupts the entire room and sends things in a whole new direction. He’ll throw out random questions, look at you and make funny faces or just give you a cheesy grin. When you are with him, you are having a good time, no matter what mood you are in because he’ll poke and prod you until you open up, you have no choice in the matter and women absolutely love this.

As a man, whether you like it or not, it’s on you to introduce the frame of the interaction. If you really want women to absolutely love being with you, never accept awkwardness, never accept negativity, never let the atmosphere die down, poke and prod them until they crack in any way you can. Push them playfully when they are trying to be all serious, pull her hair playfully, pick her up and twirl her around. You need to have a vision for what you want your life to be and she needs to feel that you are making that a reality at all times. She wants to feel like you know how to get your own way. Women are attracted to men who can penetrate the world with their purpose and vision; they make it a reality despite all the obstacles they face in the present moment. Unattractive men are in total reaction to the world and have no influence over it; they go to clubs and stand around waiting because they have no ability to make their vision a reality. This isn’t about the future either it’s about penetrating the world with your vision right now, at all times.