To get my confidence higher when approaching i did 3 step workout:

  1. Approach to cute girls, and say "hi" with a smile and a direct eye contact. Just that, and walk away(of course if she says: "wait that's all?", you should continue the conversation, saying: "haven't got to a level where i initiate a full conversation, yet. But if you want, i could skip few steps). The purpose is to overcome, the dumb thought of how scary approaching to a woman is. It is simple but truely the 50% of the fight. Doing it with dozens of woman, should eliminate or weaken the fear of approaching and opening your mouth. It helped a lot to overcome the BS reasons i tell myself before doing so.

  2. Approach, say hello, and introduce yourself. Than say you think she is very cute, and wish her a great day and walk away. I know, this method seem so blant and stupid, why would you cut in a middle of the conversation. It is simple, you want to improve your weak points, to discover where u fail, and where u can improve. This step(2) is meant for you to complete 2 or 3 sentences, with a nice and appealing approaching. This step is sure skipable and you might just skip for the third step directly(though the first one is really important). If you struggle with the third, the second step is your go to. We are practicing, and we might seem weird or off, but we getting places.

But for sure, if she continues the conversation in any manner and your mind is capable of thinking of any answer, than go for it.

  1. Appraoching, introducing, and paying attention. It is pretty simple. You come, say hi, say something that you noticed, or even a joke if you have one in mind(not a so funny joke, works out great if told with confidence, as it supposed to be hilarious). And continue the conversation! If she seemed interested and didn't mentioned a bf or a husband, and you made her giggle a bit. Ask her number(it shouldn't be hard at this moment).

What does these 3 steps help: building confidence when approaching, improving the flow of the conversation, and eliminating that part of our brain that keeps us afraid.

Tips: eye contact, don't sneak from behind, don't scare them, just make sure they do see you. Smile, it is contagious. And from a post i just read(at this same sub reddit) show you are interested, and you do desire her, don't make her feel you are just trying to friendzoned.

P.s: i wrote it as a comment thought maybe posting it, and hearing you thoughts. I personally skipped the second step, cause i struggled with the approaching part and less of the conversation part. Would really appreaciate any ideas, thought, or improvements.