Actions on the actual date

hunterpua · 2018-08-12T19:58:37+00:00

Feels so unnatural to go from just talking to making a move, right?

Because it is unnatural!

This is why you should qualify, so that the interest you show her makes sense!

You seem kinda new to this. By qualify I mean ask her or make her do things to prove herself to you and also to pay close attention for when she does something to prove herself to you on her own and reward her with interest whenever she does.

Think about it. Without finding out what's awesome about her, what would be your reason to show interest in the first place? Because people tell you that's what you should do? Because "that's what it is to be a man"? Because you want her to know you're not trying to be friends?

Makes no sense. The only time you should show her interest is when she deserves it!

I mean, why would you want to be more than friends with a girl you know nothing about?

Sex is the only answer to that question. If you just want to fuck and are not interested in who she is as a person at all then going on a date in and of itself is unnatural. It'd be more natural to immediately tell her when you meet her that you want to fuck.

But then again, you kinda need to qualify for sex too because maybe she's kinda crazy or has some sort of STD or something is off about her physically.

That's it man. Women go into dates with the right mindset - getting to know a guy. Men come into dates with the wrong one - trying to impress her. If you came into a date with the intention of getting to know her then you will naturally be qualifying her.

One time as I was just penetrating a girl at the end of our first date she asked me, "Did you know this was going to happen?"

I said no and I mean't it. If I'm honest, I have the skill to have sex with girls on the first date and I've done it countless times but I honestly didn't know, not because I doubted my skills but because I wasn't sure if I would want to have sex with her by the end of the night because I wasn't assuming I'd want sex as a forgone conclusion, I actually came into the date wondering whether I would like her.

Now, people say qualification is about finding out qualities she has beyond her looks. False.

You can qualify her on her looks and the things she does to make herself more physically attractive whether that's her makeup, the way she walks, her diet, how she works out, the way she dresses, etc.

Of course you can also do the same with her personality.

The point is when you qualify her it gives you so much ammo to show her interest on.

If she's wearing her hair down challenge her to see if she can pull off wearing her hair up. Looks nice? Tell her what you love about it. Boom! You showed interest.
You say you like girls who can take responsibility for themselves, she says girls that blame bad behavior on their period are lying. Express why you like that about her. Boom! Showed interest again.
You get into a whole conversation about being adventurous and getting out of your comfort zone and you suggest getting out of the club or whatever place you guys are in to do something crazy and unusual, she goes along with it. You kiss her. Boom!

That's how it works. Its not about talking then out of nowhere telling her you like her and hoping it'll stick. No wonder many people here believe in their heart that this is a numbers game, those guys forget about one of the most basic components of the game.

pm_me_ur_bubblebutts · 2018-08-12T17:55:59+00:00

"Terrified" "Risks" "Afraid" "Sucks" Words you've used to describe your recent experiences tell me that you're insecure. And that's perfectly fine OP. Don't beat yourself up. You need to be stronger and more confident on the inside. Build up your inner game. I would start with your framing. How you describe yourself and your inner confidence. "My confidence is AWESOME" "I am a catch" "I make moves" "I'm a playmaker" "I'm relaxed" "I'm not needy" "Only I can validate worthiness" "I'm not afraid of anything" "I'm the captain of this ship, and I'm going to guide us through the night" Women in general want this type of guy, that's what they're attracted to. Sounds like your lack of confidence has turned them off a bit. But don't worry! You're more than capable of changing up the game (and your inner game). It's going to take a lot of time and practice, but you can do it. You can reverse old habits. You can be the best parent/coach to yourself. And you will. Stop telling yourself anything different. Today is the first day of the rest of your game. And you will own it. It starts with that voice inside of you. Change that voice. "I cannot" will become "I can and I will." Rise up, and go find your new voice OP. You're going to do great.

WIA20XX · 2018-08-12T19:17:50+00:00

What do you text the girl before hand?

Title	Actions on the actual date
Author	unsureaboutallofthis
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	August 12, 2018 5:46 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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