Hey guys. It may be the wrong the subredit, but here we go:

I like a girl currently, she has a distant relationship and I don't want to damage their relationship in no means, but I can't help myself stoping from thinking about her. I am currently reading "The Book of Pook" and I am trying to understand what I am doing wrong when talking with a girl and why I still don't have one. It seems like girls like when you act like a jerk with them, ignoring them and soo on, at least that's the impression I get from the book so far.

Last year, when I was going through a lot of anxiety, I started to read spiritual books, do meditation, listen to spiritual podcasts, etc. I completely changed how I speak with people, I used to joke around and tease people, to fit my friends circle. But, now I am trying to behave nicer to people, listen to them and be more vulnerable with them, but I still tease and joke :P

There is a conflict that I am facing right now, I though so hard to become a person that I would like myself to be around and I am proud how far I have come. I now get better friendships because I am more honest and I care about other person. I changed my views about bad people and I am more empathetic toward them. But, reading this book and other articles on internet, it seems like I need to be the opposite person to girls, which I don't see myself like that. I have to go basically back to the person I was. I shouldn't say to a girl: "You look good", because I would put her on pedestal, so I need to say right after: "I am joking". Which I really feel like I am being rude and I don't want to seen like that.

IDK, right now what to do. It seems like I need to be fake around girls, cuz I am one person around my best friends where I am honest and vulnerable and another person around girls to act like I don't care and I am busy and don't have time for small talk.
It also seems like other guys got the perfect receipt for how to talk and act with a girl without finishing a PHD in dating. I feel like I am taking another class, besides my university studies on how to date girls. It's ridiculous. Can't I just be me? It may be that I am a little bit stressed this past 3 days, but I don't know...

p.s I am reading rn "The Game", which opened my eyes a little bit, but It seems like a very complicated game, why there are guys who just get the girls without reading all this?

Thanks in advance for any advice you can give me :)