Some background. I'm familiar with much of the common wisdom on attracting and keeping very attractive women - in particular I found this post quite helpful.

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/x1819/guide_to_having_a_hot_girlfriend/

Most of the advice on this board is about getting a girl to be super attached to you, more so than you are to them, and I get that completely.

But I feel that there is a certain class of woman who can have such high value and core confidence that they start to resent you having the upper hand in the relationship. For example, my girlfriend exhibits very alpha tendencies - she has always been the one ending her relationships - she's used to guys who don't see other people very long after meeting her and try to get her into a relationship.

We have been together now for 6 months or so, but I maintained several emotional and sexual relationships with other girls for the first 3-4 months and she has a lot of doubts about whether she can really stay with someone for the long term who did that. She wants details and I haven't been entirely forthcoming about dates that that all stopped, but she knows that I have been exclusive since we became official (which happened on a 2 week vacation together) But she can get cold when she gets reminded of that, and I have tended to make remarks that spark her jealousy as well, but I'm trying hard to not do that. She is very into me - as I am to her - we both know that when we get along it is really the most intense best time either of us has had with anyone. But she has just as much core confidence in her ability to go out and get over me and pick up a very attractive guy as I do in my ability to do the opposite. She has a great sense of humor and is very extraverted and comfortable talking to anybody, not shy at all was in a sorority in college, won an equivalent of 'prom queen', and has been exposed to a lot of attractive guys in her life.

In an effort to not sacrifice my own dignity and be attractive, I can be very prone to walking out when she is in a cold mood. If she doesn't act attracted to me or starts to ignore me with her friends in an obvious way (usually related to something she feels about me not being that attached to her) or letting another dude try to flirt with her for an extended amount of time, I will walk out, and often it she comes to find out that I went somewhere else and was chatting it up with a group of girls.

I would not do anything while we are still together, but I'm not certain she entirely trust this and thinks that I don't care about her.

Eric Disco had a good quote in another thread today: This girl should be scared to death that you will walk out on her. You are far too tolerant of bullshit from her.

And I guess I have tended to do this, rather than let things get under my skin slowly or train her that such treatment is OK. When I've walked out she has always been the one chasing and hysterical, but she very much resents this because she isn't used to being the one in this position and feels like I don't care. One time she walked out on me, and I talked with her calmly but refused to go down and chase after her. That upset her terribly because she perceives my inability to 'fight' for her if she wanted to leave as not caring.

Her previous long term boyfriend was old-fashioned, or more AFC as far as telling her how beautiful she is all the time and texting her dozens of times all day. The problem is that she wants me to be more like this, but then, I know that this very behavior is likely the cause of their breakup and her lower attraction to him.

But I also know that because she has options she won't tolerate feeling that her ex cared about her more than I do and will keep looking for someone who will. It can be sort of a catch-22. Part of me just thinks it would be easier to find a more introverted but equally attractive girl who doesn't have such an ingrained idea that she has to be the one being pursued. I've certainly experienced that in the past, but part of what attracted me to her in the first place is her core confidence and extraversion and unwillingness to compromise in what she wants.

Lately I've been inclined to give her more of what she wants as far as letting her know that I love her, but I generally still convey that I could walk whenever I felt that she didn't treat me with respect and I would do just fine. She conveys the same. Has anyone navigated this successfully? Is having a more equal compromise in the power-dynamic worth it? Is this actually the ideal? - I feel like a lot of guys who get good at this tend to navigate up the ladder of getting girls who are increasingly attractive and desirable to put them ahead of themselves, but maybe at the top of this ladder is someone who is actually a lot like you have become and that relationship must inevitably be more balanced than the ones leading up to it?

Feedback appreciated. I'm sure some will call me out on oneitis, and I welcome it, but I want to convey the main thing is that I'm not coming from desperation or scarcity. I have a lot of women who are very attractive that I would gladly call up and hang out very soon if this were to end, and I know I can easily meet new desirable women.