So, I joined the Seddit community with different goals in mind than others here. I never wanted to be a pick-up artist. I just wanted to take steps to make my next girlfriend one of high value to me, and I wanted to increase my own social value and self-confidence in the process. Additionally, I wanted my next relationship to be one in which I never lose control of myself to the girl. Ever. The first two goals have been reached, now, and the third one is obviously perpetually ongoing, though I'm performing up to my own set standard in that respect. I'm dating a super-cute girl who has a ton of confidence. There is plenty of mutual attraction to go around, and I can tell that we amplify each other's own personal strength, because we are both strong-minded, intelligent, and well-spoken individuals.

I credit this community with helping me to reform my own natural game and social skills, and I am very confident in myself now, as I have been for the past couple of months since I really "fine-tuned" myself. At parties, I am definitely the "cool guy" now, whereas before I was always a wallflower. I can easily get a number and set up a date with a girl, which was a daunting task for me until now. I have heard talk from my current girlfriend and other female friends of mine about how other girls I know (mostly 7s and 9s) think I'm "so hot", and that just serves to boost my confidence even more. Thanks, guys.

Here are some of the main points I picked up to amplify my own seduction skills:

  • Confidence is self-produced. It is never given to you from any source outside yourself. Sure, things people say and do can boost your confidence, but ultimately, it is you and you alone who chooses to be confident.

  • Always be exactly who you are around everyone. Keep it real. Don't let even the hottest girl cause you to change one thing.

  • Never be afraid to disagree with a girl. We as men often get caught up agreeing with girls (especially the really hot ones) on things we don't actually agree with. We should always boldly disagree with a girl if that is how we feel. We should also be tactful about it and disagree in a way that opens up room for argument, so that we can make ourselves appear more interesting.

  • Boldly touch and escalate physical contact where and when appropriate. This one was the last and hardest thing for me to work on. Detailed tips are in the sidebar, and they work.

  • Inner game is the core of all game. Start living a rewarding life the way you want it, and keep yourself busy with fulfiling your own goals and dreams. Also stay in good physical health.

  • Be decisive, and take the lead. You don't have to make every decision in the relationship, but you should make most of them. Always try to stay just one step ahead of her in your interaction.

These are just six of the things that Seddit has helped me to identify and intensify to help me have a healthy social and dating life, and I just want to thank you all for that.

Now I would like to ask you for some advice. As you may be able to tell, I'm in no sort of dire straits at all, socially. What I want is some advice so that I can take "preventative measures" you might say, to make sure that I do not end up resting on my laurels as a seducer and effectively cause my own value to diminish, along with her desire for me and the overall sexual tension. As I have heard in plenty of previous posts, game is more necessary inside of long term relationships than outside of them, but the game is slightly different. Are there any sedditors who are currently in relationships or are experienced in using effective game within a relationship? Like I said, things are great for me and her right now. I just want to figure out some specific things to focus on as goals, so that I do not become lax in my seduction techniques, and thus, a lazy boyfriend.