Advice Please...Friend Zone

slickvik12345 · 2011-06-02T03:54:17+00:00

You don't use seddit to get the one girl. This sounds like one-itis.

Seddit isn't for that one girl, it's a lifestyle change you use to improve your overall girl-getting abilities. But remember, it's not just you "getting" the girl. It's mutual (unless you're a rapist and that's not cool). Seddit can be helpful for tips to generate attraction. The best i've seen to get out of friendzone is mentioning that you're happy that you're in the friendzone (but not out of nowhere). The girl will then try to qualify herself and do whatever else to make you like her.

tl;dr - Seddit isn't about that one girl.

slickvik12345 · 2011-06-02T05:40:43+00:00

One-itis and usual seddit rules aside, I was going to say she seemed to give you all the signals she needed to: kissed you while in a relationship. Announced she was going to break up with him, made out with you the same night. And the way you speak of how she informed you she broke up with him - "she lets me know...", not just that she casually mentioned - makes it seem like she made a point of telling you and was hoping for you to respond.

Maybe her telling you about this casual relationship with another guy is a shit test. Maybe not and she's a kind of immature girl who doesn't know what she's doing. The positive is that in either case (and I've been in both, and it's the kind of thing you only realize in hindsight), you're all clear to approach her and just ask her out. Don't make it a big deal. Ask her out as if it's the most normal thing in the world to do. She'll either go for it, or she'll immediately realize she's been sending you the wrong signals and feel bad about it while politely turning you down, and then everything goes back to normal. I guarantee you that even if she rejects you, so long as you don't act awkwardly around her, you'll stay friends if you both want to. And if she doesn't, fuck her. (And if you don't, then chances are you weren't ever really interested in being just friends, and just wanted to get with her. I can't judge you for that, because I've been there. But it helps you move on.) I wish I knew this when I was younger.

The worst case scenario is that she turns you down, is a jerk about it, doesn't see her previous actions as (rightfully) leading you to believe she's attracted to you, and then shuns you. In which case, she's a shitty person and you're better off without her. Again, this may seem insane at the time, and you may think your friendship with her is so important, but you will make other, better friends. The weird thing about friendships, I find, is that as soon as one crumbles, as they sometimes do, another one tends to take its place naturally.

slickvik12345 · 2011-06-02T03:43:26+00:00

Fuck ten other girls, and see how you feel. If you still have the same feelings, go for it!

acepincter · 2011-06-02T05:21:40+00:00

From /r/seduction: breaking the friendzone barrier

2011-06-02T06:55:19+00:00

Men want women's Pussy, Women want men's Time.
That is the exchange of all initial relationships my friend.

You've already been pimped for the last year. Why should things change now? She has you where she wants you. Blunty put: You are her little time-whore. So you have two options in my opinion:
* Tell her you want to fuck her because you don't feel you're getting a fair deal.
* Cut off contact for a significant period of time (6 months - 1 year), work on yourself and bring back something to offer/different. Because she doesn't want the current you.

She'll be shocked, cry, or some other emotional response. But in the end you can continue to get exploited (it's unconscious though, so don't get mad) and build-up undue resentment or take an actual risk.
And to put it in perspective, if she actually left and you weren't friends what would you really miss about her (taking her body/potential for sex out of the equation)? Is she actually funnier than your other friends, more intelligent, shares more interests than your guy friends?

ThrowawayPUA · 2011-06-02T14:03:44+00:00

Don't let girls whine to you about other guys. That stuff does put you in the friend zone. Empathize, but cut her off. Say something like, "You shouldn't dwell on thoughts like that, it's not good for you." Then keep escalating. Don't worry about being rebound guy. You're already planning on how she'll feel about you after you break up, and you haven't even got it together yet.

RedErin · 2011-06-02T14:31:30+00:00

All you have to do, is text her "Drinks? Later?". Do that right now. After the date, go back to your place for sweet lovemaking.

Phelx · 2011-06-03T05:18:43+00:00

Dude I do this all the time; All I can say is what people have told me on this sub-reddit. Be yourself with her, and just be upfront too, let her know that you like her for who she is and what not.

Don't be forcing with it, just put it out there bro. I've overcome some of my shyness due to this sub-reddit, the more you post here and the more you read others you think of more ideas, just keep at it :)

Title	Advice Please...Friend Zone
Author	slickvik12345
Upvotes	0
Comments	20
Date	June 2, 2011 3:22 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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