I (22M) have been seeing this girl (19F) for about a month. We matched on Bumble, and our bios both said "looking for a relationship." We have been on three official dates and have hung out a few times outside of that after running into each other on campus, so I'll say we have been on six dates. On the second date, she denied my kiss (said she was not comfortable), but she still invited me on a third date. I get the feeling we are both inexperienced with dating, with her being a bit prude seemingly. We are so emotionally congruent and share a lot of values, which is a major plus! We always had a blast on our dates.

On the third date, she tells me her grandfather had just died, so I did not try to take advantage of the situation to further my cause so to speak. That's just not me; I was just there for her. We made plans to get lunch the next week, but she canceled the night prior due to making an appointment to see her professor and the week being hectic overall. I ran into her later that day unexpectedly, and we grabbed dinner. She texted me right after that she loved seeing me and that it lifted her spirits/put her in a good mood due to everything being so difficult lately.

I get anxious easily, but I have definitely sensed a vibe shift since she canceled the lunch to meet with her professor; however, I do not want to mistake her being a little aloof lately as disinterest when she is likely still grieving her grandfather. She is still being relatively social, though, just not with me. We do leave for winter break in a week or so, and I want to convey to her that I still want to pursue this further. What would be the right thing to say? Where do we even stand? I don't want to be put in the friend zone or for what we have to die out during the break. We do live a little far from each other (about a 2-hour drive), but I am okay to meet up once or twice in addition to FaceTime.

TLDR: The girl I have been seeing lost her grandfather, and things sort of went a little cold. Contact is still there but not as much as usual. I am not sure if she is disinterested now or just sad. We leave for winter break soon, and I want to define what we are to avoid it fizzling out over break. Is this even an appropriate time given her recent loss? If so, what do I say? How do I say it? Am I just a friend? Go for a kiss before break?