after #-close, what next?

HoodCardigan3 · 2011-03-07T03:59:02+00:00

You can look in the Sidebar - New to Seddit section for references on date ideas and text game.

In brief, your goal is now to interact with this girl in a situation that allows you to build rapport and attraction. You need to define the context to ensure that conditions are ideal.

Call or text the girl, remind her who with a positive twist "Hey Girl, it's ryeyebread, the charming boy with piercing blue eyes from your mathematics class". Then invite her to an event, either alone, or if you're more comfortable, with a group of your friends who will increase your value. Drinks are acceptable, but you get bonus points for doing something original, like going to an art exhibit. I prefer not to do dinner as a first date.

You will only be friendzoned if you fail to define your interaction as romantic and sexual in nature. So use light kino throughout the date. I like the advice to tell a girl to "dress sexy" by text beforehand, if the context is right. Talking about subjects that encourage her to be vulnerable, such as past drug use history, also seems to work. IANA expert on this, so read the materials in the sidebar and field test it.

Ok, so that was not brief at all.

Last word of advice: you will probably, at some point, have a bad dating experience:a girl who flakes, who friendzones you, who never answers your texts. Don't worry about it, learn what you can, and just move on to the next one.

Welcome to seddit!

tl;dr: Be the pack leader.

Listro · 2011-03-07T06:28:05+00:00

Well, what's a little more info on your situation? Do you have your own place? Are you two crazy college kids old enough to go to a bar to get a drink, what's the deal?

After I get a number I tend to have her come to my place, then we get to a bar that's a little more intimate and then it's back to my place. That's what works for me and that's what I like. What do you like? What things do you like that allow for interaction and isolation?

As far as getting friend zoned, I can't really remember the last time I was ever friend zoned. I have been blown out from time to time, but I'd have to go back many many years to remember friend zoned.

For me, I believe my willingness to touch and lead keeps me away from friend zone. Since, I'm always touching and leading things in that direction it's known that things are sexual. Also, the fact that i'm leading majority of the time means that, if she chooses to interact with me, she can't lead things in a direction that I don't want.

TofuTofu · 2011-03-07T04:13:36+00:00

Please read the material linked in the sidebar before posting. And questions like this belong in /r/AskSeddit.

Title	after #-close, what next?
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Date	March 7, 2011 2:27 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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