- Nonneediness. "attractiveness is inversely proportional to neediness". Therefore, nonneediness is attractive. Nonneediness is placing a higher priority on the perception of yourself, than the value of how others perceive you. A strong man will say "this is what we are doing", "this is what I want", "I like this", "I'm like that", and his intentions will be true. He will do things for the pleasure of doing them. A weak man will ask, "should we do this", "is this alright" and worry about how others think of him, how he dresses, what he says, what he talks about, and his sense of humor.

- Instead of wondering what to say next to make her like you, you could sit there waiting to see if she will say something to you to show her interest in you / show that she likes you.

- Instead of trying to impress her with who you are, you can just talk with her and see where things go. You do not have to think the opposite, "will she impress me?", either. You should stay away from judgement. You should not be constantly assessing the situation with everything you say, overthinking, and trying to determine whether you two could date or fuck.

- Instead of looking for a conversation she will like, you could talk about something you like. Again, don't judge. Try to notice if you're constantly assessing whether she likes the fact that you just brought Starwars up. You guys could talk about literally a million different things, and it doesn't matter if you just brought up something she doesn't find interesting.

- Have boundaries. She's on her phone looking uninterested? Walk away. She's not replying? Get rid of her contact. She's boring? Save your mood and walk away. Dude, when you're into a girl YOU ARE INTO HER. When she's sucking your soul (energy), walk away.

- Self-improvement. Frequent exercise. Maintainable and enjoyable habits and diet. Go outside. Run a little. Read. Get a better dating profile. Improve your wardrobe.

- With most women you will be incompatible. Holding onto the idea that you're highly compatible or could take a girl home that night is an illusion on grandeur.

- Something about being genuine. Be genuine. Be inspired. Be honest. Be unconditional. Be real, it's good.

- Something about being vulnerable. Vulnerability is sticking your neck out on something you may be shamed or criticized for. Being comfortable in vulnerable situations is good and strong and is part of being you. i.e. I used to be terrified of making sus jokes. Then I learned and adopted this. And now I make crazy sus and dark humored jokes and I'm happier, because I found that these jokes make me laugh the hardest. And it took me a while to make this change.

- Something about having an agenda. Idk, I've taken a girl home when I went out that night trying to do so. But I've also had the best time of my life when I just go out and dance and have fun. So... You don't have to drop the take a girl home agenda, but, right now, for me, I'm enjoying trying to be happier (frequent exercise, going outside, going for a run, listening to music, eating protein, etc).

- Tips from How to Win Friends & Influence People: Don't criticize people (a.k.a. don't judge). Learn people's names and use them. Be positive and encouraging. Give genuine praise.

- Tips from Conversationally Speaking: Preparing questions and conversation is a good idea and that's it.

- Tips from The Art of Small Talk: The purpose of small talk is to make connections. Here's a list of prepared questions you can ask: (to be honest, comment something to let me know you want me to post this long ass list of questions and conversation openers. I'm tired and am not doing it now).

- Think and talk about the future and goals. Don't be stuck in the now (a grind you may be going through, physically, or career-wise), or the past. :) [Post-reading edit: For fuck sake's not always either. Don't fucking go out and live your life based on this post.]

- When you don't know what to do, or do with your hands, or say, or you're walking and you see someone that you know and you don't know what to do and you feel weird, focus on your breathing.

- Don't do anything that you don't want to do. Don't say anything that you don't want to say.

- Improve your wardrobe. Go to r/malefashionadvice , read the wiki, the basics, honestly self-assess your wardrobe, make a list of stuff you need, and buy stuff that you REALLY want, not stuff you kind of like. That way you have clothes you love to wear and you develop your style.

- Workout. You can go 50 / 60 percent and go home. The endorphins feel good AND you'll be outside.

- Escalating? Fuck it dude, if you're feeling it (smiling, having a good time, SO IS SHE), "Want to come home with me?". "Wanna get out of here?". If she's 50/50, YOU COULD STILL SEND IT. If she's cold, LMAO GO AWAY! For the love of God, if you're working on your first kiss or practicing your "touches", or trying your "approaches", I can't help you. I die of second-hand embarrassment and cringe when I hear you guys talk like this or trying to get your first kiss. For fuck sake's. Have fun, ask her to go home with you. Date setting? Have fun, ask her if she wants to go xyz at your home, lol.

- See every girl as beautiful. Why? The best pussy I've gotten is from girls who were not the hottest. Those girls are fun, too. Human connection is nice. The interest they will show you is satisfying on a human need level. The world is more fun this way, too. Again, stop judging people if you notice you're actively doing it.

😝✌️ I think I have more to add so btw, if I do i'll come back