Am I too late?

VDKay · 2017-07-26T16:56:09+00:00

Our minds are great and intricate machines, aren't they? Your mind will always find ways to generate excuses for anything that you don't like doing (produces negative emotions), even if you have to in order to achieve something greater. And not just picking up girls. It applies to anything. Time is never the problem. If you want something, you will find time. I believe you just don't want it bad enough, letting gym/coding/parents being more important than that. In fact, you make them sound that they aren't but you still use them as excuses.

You are doing it now as well by generating the excuse of "It's too late for me now!" Let me tell you something. You think you would have more time if you lived alone and had a house to tend all by yourself? Would you have more time if you had a 9-to-5 office job plus gym, plus hanging out with acquaintances? Take it the other way: would you have more time if you had school till noon and then you had to do your homework for the next day, go to hockey class, then Spanish class and then have dinner with your parents (every single day)? Yet people across all ages are learning pickup. They are making time because they want it bad enough. Becuase they are genuinely motivated. You say you are seeing a therapist. Maybe he can help you get your priorities and life goals straight. Maybe he can help you find out what you really want and what really motivates you.

Just a notice though:

I'm emotionally and sexually repressed. I want love in all it's forms.

Sometimes we have higher goals in mind, but in reality, we use these goals to wrap and rationalize our need for validation. It is not a bad thing. It is human nature/programming. But I do believe that a needy mentality does not achieve much, and even if it does, it is not satisfied easily and remains in misery.

Jack__Knife · 2017-07-26T18:28:33+00:00

Finding a girlfriend should be fun, and it is fun, it certainly isn't rocket science. So stop overthinking. The blunt fucking truth is nothing good comes easy, and finding the right girlfriend tops the list. You don't have a job, you have time. Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful. Get a fucking job. Stop being lazy. The thought of not having a girlfriend should also be motivating and make you try.

Stop watching porn, and tossing your unborn children into a dirty sock next to your bed.

Leaving your comfort zone is the only way it'll happen. Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, and choose honestly. Choose happiness.

MatticusjK · 2017-07-26T20:13:03+00:00

Friend, it's never too late. Every day is a new opportunity to learn and grow. It's ok if you don't get that today, there's always tomorrow

FuckPickingAUsername · 2017-07-26T17:57:46+00:00

Absolutely not man. I was in an extremely similar situation to yours when I was 20, still a virgin, had been working on myself since I was 19. I made that the year I got my first long term gf, lost my virginity, and had intercourse with another girl after my gf and I broke up. It's never too late honestly and however far behind you think you are just know there are others way behind that. You truly have to make a conscious effort to change though. Going to the gym and adding hobbies etc is important but it means nothing if you still aren't putting yourself out there. The mental issues will never go away and it's something you'll just have to accept and live with. It's unfair and sucks but life is unfair and sucks. Doesn't mean you don't deserve to enjoy the good in life. You're right you deserve love in all forms but you gotta work for it man. You gotta push yourself outside your comfort zone constantly. That's the only way to get better, you're never going to see change if you keep doing the same things. So constantly push yourself to try new things and accept the fact that you're gonna fail, we all do, it is what it is. You just have to know each failure is bringing you closer and closer to success whether you can see it or not. And when you find a girl which I'm sure you will, don't put all the emphasis on the sex part. Yes it is great but it's more important to have a teammate/really good friend to grow and share experiences with then some female sex doll.

Title	Am I too late?
Author	zackit
Upvotes	2
Comments	7
Date	July 26, 2017 2:23 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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