Anxiety issues + Vulnerability?

UTBeneVOLence · 2014-11-15T10:57:17+00:00

Hey man,

I know how you feel so wanted to give you some guidance. I have suffered from Generalized Anxiety and OCD for most of my life, I went to therapy two years for it, which really helped me get my thoughts in check.

I picked up game within the last few months after splitting with my long term girlfriend and I realized I had the same problem you are having now.

Short term: what you need to do is learn how to stay present (this is hard by the way) but if you can stay present in the moment during a conversation with a girl and actually listen to what she is saying, you don't give yourself the ability to get anxious as you are staying out of your head. One of the easiest ways to start this is to ensure that next time you are talking to someone, watch their mouth every now and then and mimic the words they are saying in your head, it gives you focus, plus it gives you at the added bonus of ensuring that you can actually respond in a worthwhile manner.

Long term: Three things for bad anxiety that you need to start doing from today:

Exercise, I can't stress this enough, you need to be working out just a little every day, it helps with confidence and makes you tired, ever noticed you don't feel anxiety when you are super tired? It literally wears your brain out when you exercise heavily and floods your body with feel good chemicals.
Mindfulness meditation, this is easy to learn, hard to master. Get a guide online and start learning how to be present in meditation. A good thing with this is when you get really good you can turn it on and off whenever you need to.
Hypnotherapy. Nothing special but check out some core confidence hypnotherapy sessions on YouTube. This is one I use at the moment https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a6P3O5oPqDM

Conclusion: learn presence and do things to make you love yourself (exercise) and remember that anxiety is normal, it's your brains way of getting you out of danger, it's a signal that says "I don't feel good about this, we're not safe, we need to get out of here" it's a chemical warning, except realistically there is nothing to be scared of, we aren't in a tribe anymore and we are confused as to what should generate anxiety.

Also on a last note, I still get anxiety, but I re-focussed, I know I get scared but i use that fear to drive me. My thinking is something along the lines of "That feeling means you have to do this, your scared which meas your brain is telling you, you have to do it"

Good luck, champ... Come back to me with anymore questions!

Title	Anxiety issues + Vulnerability?
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Date	November 15, 2014 6:17 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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