Approaching vs the scarcity principle

moderndayfez · 2021-05-02T22:43:43+00:00

I have, but this whole "you are basically offering yourself to that person" is the wrong mindset, just because you can approach someone doesn't mean that they don't need to show that they are good for you as well, it's doesn'y mean they don't need to put any effort also. I have easily pulled away from an approach because as I got to know them I realized that yes there were physically attractive but nothing

But also look at it from their perspective. Between them walking up, doing their typical things walking around here or there and no one approached them. . . . but you did, isn't that scarce also. I mean there only one you in the whole world. Never forget that my friend

denl67 · 2021-05-03T02:33:43+00:00

Err no. By approaching someone, your just looking to boost your options in other words, you are actually becoming more abundant. Obviously if you act needy ("offering" yourself to the other person) then it's a different story. Otherwise your not just taking the other person but you're seeing if you and them will be a good fit. Having a good interaction centers around this more or less

TimeToFuckPigeons · 2021-05-04T06:52:37+00:00

I think you can do both depending on the situation. Take for example this girl I’m long gaming at the local bar.

Night 1: It was her birthday, she had the sash and everything. We made eye contact a bunch, and about halfway through my night I had my bartender get her a shot on my tab. She smiled at me when she ordered it, blah blah. Later on I go over to the table acting like I’m setting her friend up with my wing, all the while establishing physical with the girl and judging her response. Friend goes to bathroom, I start chatting up birthday girl and things are going great. Then I break off for the night.

Night 2: I see her at the bar, make eye contact once and avoid the rest of the night. Then as she’s leaving I flag her over, hit her with the “you look really familiar” she says where I know her from, and I act surprised and pull out her name then wish her a goodnight. Hardly any contact this night compared to a longer convo on night one. She could hardly keep her eyes off me while I sat there avoiding her (bartender kept me posted, shoutout to him he’s a real one)

Night 3: yet to be seen. If I’m in a group I’ll probably repeat the avoidance strategy. If I’m flying solo I’ll make my move.

This can be condensed into one night. Do a cold approach and gauge interest. If she’s seeming interested, you suddenly have to get back to your friends who just happen to be in her line of sight. It’s key to establish physical contact before initiating the avoidance phase because (if she reacts positively) it’s a step that there’s very little going back from. With this girl, physical contact started with a light hand brushing her arm, and ended with an arm around the waist.

Also keep in mind the guys she’s with aren’t always reliable. I talked to one of the guys at her table and he said she was taken, but when I went over and started putting things in motion she said she was single. Sometimes her guy friends are good sources of info, but oftentimes they have their own agenda.

If any of y’all are in the south central pa region and see me out at a bar, feel free to come up and I’ll wingman you

2021-05-02T22:37:48+00:00

You should study the psychology and behaviors that go into the men vs women ratio in an area.

Your approach philosophy probably makes more sense in some cities vs others.

Title	Approaching vs the scarcity principle
Author	shortblock335
Upvotes	5
Comments	5
Date	May 2, 2021 9:00 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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