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Can you give an example of what you would say? I go to my school gym pretty often and there are some baddies there, but either I'm/or they are midset and truly have no idea how to engage them
/r/seduction13/03/26 01:20 AM
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Step one, get in Australian accent. Got it
/r/seduction04/03/26 03:03 AM
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Got it, any suggestions on what to do next I see her?
/r/seduction03/02/26 12:29 AM
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Got it, so what should I say next time I see her?
/r/seduction03/02/26 12:28 AM
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After reading feedback on my last post, it’s pretty clear I’m not being direct enough when I’m interested. I’m trying to fix that and could use some advice for this. I recently signed up to be an in-class tutor and we have weekly group meetings. There’s a girl in the group I thought was cute. After one meeting I was going to approach her, but she was on the phone, so I didn’t interrupt. Later on, we ran into each other and talked for a bit. I asked what I missed from the first meeting and wrappe…
/r/seduction02/02/26 10:21 PM
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Well after a while, you get more confident approaching strangers. And if the vibe is right you ask for the number, they might say yes they might say no. But either way no biggie.
/r/seduction11/01/26 07:24 PM
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Starts small. Have a casual conversation with someone you are not attracted to and build off that. You have a goal of talking to X amount of girls, but change it to people instead. Guys or girls and notice how chill and natural the conversation because you are not expecting anything in return except for words and that is how you not come off as desperate
/r/seduction11/01/26 12:09 AM
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Accept that yeah, it’s gonna suck, like really suck. But the thing is, you’re gonna wake up the next day, and you’ll be okay. And because you're ok you get to go out and try again. You got this, homie. I’ve been rejected — hell, I got rejected just last week. (Haven’t tried again yet, been busy with school, but that’s beside the point.) Point is: rejection’s not the end of the journey but the start of a new one of many. And the journey of a 1000 mile starts with a single step
/r/seduction09/07/25 10:10 PM
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What's weres these painful lesson. I ask bc I'm 32 now just got out of a 7 year relationship about 2 months ago and just recently, like 2 weeks ago started working on myself working out, personal hygiene, I always had a good sense of fashion so I'm not concerned about that and I'm almost ready to full put myself out there plus I got to a university and i see all these beautiful young women and know that I will never get these opportunities again
/r/seduction22/05/25 06:53 PM
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So i am going to begin by saying this is perfectly normal and many of use myself included went thru this (being to nervous to get hard and to finish), your inability to finish could be a side effect of the pill I personally think it is mental, you're probably to into your head and not really being in the moment, it could also be that because you are new to having sex, you don't know what you really like. Try different things with your GF and see what works and what doesn't.
/r/seduction20/05/25 03:13 PM
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I've always struggled with the whole push/pull thing. Like it truly goes over my head and have no idea how it works Any advice
/r/seduction13/05/25 01:58 AM
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What does that even look like? But approach them like you would any other person, because even girls who don't look like are waiting for their boyfriends could have one anyway
/r/seduction20/04/25 06:06 PM
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That I'm a prize also, just as easily as they can replace me I can replace them. Knowing that I can walk away from them as easily as they can from me.
/r/seduction17/04/25 08:32 PM
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There could be many reasons why this is happening, some people have listed some above already. But the end of the day there is no clear-cut answer, it could be because of this could be because of that. And honestly it's going to happen again it's part of the game 🤷. One thing I would recommend doing differently is, not asking them out. But invite them out instead for example " hey I'm going to be going to this event at this time / date, would you care to join me?"
/r/seduction15/04/25 04:37 PM
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I respectfully disagree and i say this because they were a few times in my days where, I approach a girl i thought I had no chance with and it ended up working out for me (not everytime, but a few) and I call that a win. But Like klogro8 said the whole point of a number game is to get experience and get used to rejection and eventually you'll get to a point where you look past the aesthetics and look for a genuine connection with whoever you're talking to. Something else klogro8 said is that kin…
/r/seduction06/04/25 09:21 PM
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This maybe a bit outdate but for me it was "The Game". When I was first getting started, I did use some of the things Neil used. The cologne trick where you ask a girl which one they like better. And after a while I started making my own tactics and sometimes it work sometimes it didn't but it definitely changed my mentality enough that 1, i was putting myself out there and 2. I was having fun.
/r/seduction06/04/25 07:29 PM
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I find that confidence is not so much about being comfortable with yourself, it's Knowing that no matter what happens at the end of the day you're going to be okay
/r/seduction29/01/25 02:56 PM
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I will add this last thing, hands down the biggest thing that helped me. Is understanding no matter what happens, whether things don't work out, whether I get rejected, whether I get laid. The next day I'm going to wake up and still be okay.
/r/seduction17/12/24 04:59 AM
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Okay you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You're going to get rejected, it's just part of the game. There's no such thing as saying all the right things. What might work for me might not work for you, why? Because we're different people You don't need someone to observe your body language, you need to be aware of your own body language. Pick up a book, learn some methods, try some out, and keep the ones that work for you.
/r/seduction17/12/24 04:57 AM
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So yeah it just sounds like you need to work on your tonality, and your body language Like the old saying goes. It doesn't matter what you say, but how you say it
/r/seduction17/12/24 04:32 AM
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Oh, no need. And I know exactly what you're doing wrong, you're trying to hard to force certain interactions instead of just letting them come naturally. Also did you just say "want to come back to me place" like how you would say it to your normal guy friends? Because if you did, you did not convey the right tone/message Dude relax, this sounds cliche but just be yourself. Lose all expectation and just enjoy their company. You're going to lose some, you're going to get some. But that's just par…
/r/seduction17/12/24 04:18 AM
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Something that help me was, reading a book on body language. It's often said that only 20% of what we actually communicate is verbal. The rest is tone, body language. This help me because I became more aware of what my body language was say, but also their body language was say. Also I became more direct with what I was saying, I stop beating around the bush and was more straight forward with what I was looking for. My favorite book that helped me what "how to unfuck yourself" To add, I think yo…
/r/seduction17/12/24 04:05 AM
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Look up the" power of makeup" and then you'll really that they are just like any other girl
/r/seduction15/12/24 04:31 PM
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Don't be a coward and make a move, put yourself out there
/r/seduction02/12/24 08:58 PM
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I agree with about 95% with this and it's something I'm in a struggling with I keep telling myself that I will approach after I drop 15 pounds, but I know that I'm just using it as an excuses, but I also use it as a motivator to workout so it's a double edged sword The only places I genuinely believe you should not approach a girl is at the gym or when they are at work..
/r/seduction02/10/24 09:49 PM
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No because you are still asking a question. "Is green your favorite color" Her:"No" Instead for example if she a wearing a green top you can go "I like your top, green is my favorite color, it must be yours too", Her:"Yes it is, " and then you can say something opened ended like "I really like the dark shades, like sage, or Forrest green" and she will typical responded with something along those But more then likely her favorite color will not be green she will say ""No, my favorite color is bla…
/r/seduction23/08/24 12:04 AM
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Should have clarified more. Yes, i'm on campus because I am also a student, and older student , but a student none the less.
/r/seduction22/08/24 12:47 AM
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Were you just asking a bunch of questions? Because if you are stop that instead make assumptions and build off the conversation. But if that doesn't work either she probably does not want to talk
/r/seduction21/08/24 11:50 PM
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I think You're missing the point on my post. Would it be weird if I as a 31-year-old man try hitting on girls that were in the early twenties, like 20-22
/r/seduction19/08/24 10:01 PM
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I've actually had the opposite problem, and I think my theory behind it is because the eight and lower, get more attention in comparison to the 8,9,and 10. Because they're not as attractive / intimidating. Yeah and the nines and 10s still get approached but the guy is so timid he doesn't make their intentions known until she's accepted him as a friend The 9th and 10th I have gotten with, all have something in common. Is that they tell me that they feel like I don't try to impress them. Heck I ha…
/r/seduction25/07/24 05:34 PM
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There are many things that could be the problem . Either one you are trying to hard to be yourself, so you're throwing your personality in everyones face to much your trying with the wrong girls you haven't figured out how to socaial calibrate yet This all could just be a shit test that you're failing at But honestly none of these could be the issue, because at the end of the day like most guys here your gonna get more no's then yes's. And that's ok
/r/seduction29/06/24 02:32 AM
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Don't be afraid to lose. This will erase all sense of desperation, will make you be more confident, and will make her chase you also Also don't be ashamed of your intentions and your desires. Once you figure those to communicate them you will get a lot more results Lastly have fun with it. This is why it called gaming, bc it's supposed to be fun and if things don't work out you can just restart and try again
/r/seduction12/05/24 02:49 PM
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Dude this is awesome, this was always my biggest issue and something I still struggle with. On how to give off that sexual vibe, instead of that friendly Vibe and friends only myself, how do I get into this?
/r/seduction09/04/24 06:11 PM
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Oh bro, I did great in Panama City. Granted it was 2017, but I'm sure a lot of it still holds true today. Honestly I just embraced the idea of being in a town, where no one knew me, would probably never see me again and a town I would hardly ever go again. So I just did/said anything I wanted
/r/seduction06/02/24 02:15 AM
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What's wrong? I feel like something happened, recently that made you feel so low to the point that you made a post about how ugly you are and you're going to die alone. Whatever it is man, would you have to remember is that it's okay. It's okay to feel sad, it's okay to feel low about yourself, but was not okay to let it get to your head. I can truly say everyone in this subreddit has felt the same way. We will had our lows we all had our highs, we will had ourselves destroyed both mentally and …
/r/seduction20/12/23 07:32 PM
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THIS!!!! when I first started I got them interested, got dates, got the opportunity but never made a move and they got so annoyed they basically fucked off and never gave me a another chance
/r/seduction12/08/23 11:25 PM
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Honestly I do a lot of game at the grocery store haha 😂😂. Don't get me wrong I don't go to the grocery store to game. I cook a lot and know the key to a good meal is fresh ingredients. So I go to the grocery store for the first ingredients and if I see something else I like 😉😉 i try my luck
/r/seduction20/10/22 11:18 PM
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Too many to count or to keep track of. But it's kind of the of the point you don't focus on your losses, don't get me wrong you focus on what may have gone wrong but you're not always going to win. That's just part of the game dude. The ones that get really good at this don't care if they get rejected or not and in essence that only projectors more confidence which in turns get you more girls
/r/seduction20/10/22 11:16 PM
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I got shopping and if I see something I like I see what happens
/r/seduction08/10/22 02:12 AM
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Yes she is playing games to get all the attention back to herself. Do whatever you want, tell her whatever you want or just ignore her, because you are not going to let her get to you and you don't care what she says
/r/seduction08/10/22 02:11 AM
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Well dude you need to act fast because you've already talked to her but haven't escalated it. Dude school is a gold mine, that's where I built most of my game. You can talk about anything except school or class,. Say you like her shoes and how they work well with her out fit. Or something, similar. What worked well for me was while I was talking to her I would finish with "hey I have to go do this so I have to go. But before that left me get your phone number. Best advice I can give if things do…
/r/seduction04/10/22 12:58 AM
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It is luck,so instead of sitting around go make your own luck.
/r/seduction04/09/22 01:07 AM
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For me it has to be grocery stores, I cook a lot so I'm always there getting fresh ingredients and if I see something thing I like (wink wink) I see if it's available 🙂
/r/seduction21/08/22 02:05 AM
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Bro life happens, she probably had something important come up that took her mind off getting dick.
/r/seduction10/05/22 02:54 AM
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Relax, just keep doing what you are doing. Don't let it affect you and just pretend she never asked if you had a gf.
/r/seduction10/05/22 02:44 AM
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I first got into it after reading the game, I used a couple of those openers, and then eventually came up with my own. Example i once wore a polo with a tie and walked up to girls to asked them if it "worked". I have also just gone up to girls and said Hi I'm OP, and you are? and just had a nice conversation. For every situation I just said what I thought would work. Did it always work NO, i definitely had my far share of rejections, but honestly i kept at it because it was fun and that went it …
/r/seduction28/03/22 12:10 AM
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I disagree to some extent, I never really believed in the theory that girls have so many options, because yes they have options but do these options make it known that they're interested. No, they just text and text and try to be their friend before asking them out Plus girls will often give their number just to either end the conversation or to not hurt the other person's feelings. My advice is; don't be afraid to lose, the reason why the women that you aren't interested in are interested in yo…
/r/seduction24/03/22 03:19 PM
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This subreddit should be able about guidances to get where you want to be in regards to getting woman. This includes the high and the lows. Sometime we just need a kick to the chest telling us to keep going
/r/seduction20/03/22 02:56 PM
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It is often said it is only at our lowest that we can learn to grow, it is tough isn't it put yourself out there give it your all and get made to feel that you are not good enough, but if someone doesn't see your worth it there lose that is probably the most important thing someone has to learned to really get good at this. My next comment may sound mean, but it's coming from a place of sincerity. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, pick yourself up, face the scary thing called the world and make t…
/r/seduction15/03/22 02:43 PM
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Ride it out see what happens, really worse case scenario you meet a cool person
/r/seduction09/03/22 02:47 AM
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GREAT!!. next time thou follow thru with the Convo, "oh so you're here on vacation" etc etc.
/r/seduction07/03/22 12:34 AM
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Whoa whoa whoa slow down cowboy, you took this small question and went super hard left. Anways, just get another job and actually show up on time. It's not difficult, you can make up reason/excuses, but being somewhere at a designated time is 100% something you can control. You say that you're "not well suited to narrow repetitive tasks for low income job" which is a completely pretentious comment btw, but to me is really sounds like you believe you are too good for those kind of jobs and so you…
/r/seduction06/03/22 11:12 PM
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What jobs have you had in the past and can you say why you got laid off?
/r/seduction06/03/22 09:02 PM
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Can you give us a screenshot of the conversation of you asking her to hangout
/r/seduction02/03/22 01:07 AM
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I had this feeling, I think what through me off guard was that she almost seemed to pay more attention after the first I asked her out. But move on got it loud and clear thank you
/r/seduction02/03/22 12:52 AM
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Yes and no. Looks get the door open more easily but if you have a shitty out look or personality it will get you no where.
/r/seduction27/02/22 09:01 PM
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Big step my dude congrats
/r/seduction10/02/22 04:39 AM
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Sound like it's probably your personality/ mentality. I assume bc you can light your cigs with your money you work . . . Alot. Get a life outside of work or woman that you can invite them too
/r/seduction19/12/21 03:44 PM
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confidence isn't something that is given it's built, you have to desensitize yourself to rejection, it's hard, very hard, but it's suppose to be hard that is what make working for it all that much worth it. Dude I'm modern day fez, yes Fez from "that 70's show" you know why? because I was the one foreign kid in my friend group that was the textbook image of nerd/ dork heck I was even in the marching band. That was shy, cringy, and all around just terrible with girls getting rejected left and rig…
/r/seduction14/11/21 05:52 PM
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She wasn't telling you, she was telling herself
/r/seduction13/11/21 02:48 AM
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Gave you give us an example of a time?
/r/seduction28/09/21 12:20 AM
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You think it is wrong to be weird, but it's who you are, and it's because you try to fight it and be someone else it's portrait as cringy. Embrace your weirdness and let it shine. That is true confidence. Homie when I first started something I did was when I saw a cute girl I would legit go and say. " Hi, I can't think of anything to say so I'm just gonna say a cheesy pickup line" but I said it with such reassurance I got not to bad result. Secondly they're probably not as pretty as you think th…
/r/seduction12/09/21 06:07 PM
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Yes it's a stranger. So introduce yourself, make conversation look past superficial value and look for residual value. They're still people.
/r/seduction25/08/21 01:48 AM
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There is no right or wrong answer for this, and what I mean by this is some will appreciate the direct compliment while other will the indirect way. But yea I don't recommend. Nice eyes, nice boobs also yea no
/r/seduction25/08/21 01:41 AM
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Give an opinion of what they maybe talking about.
/r/seduction15/08/21 03:28 PM
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Hi I'm fez and you are?
/r/seduction15/08/21 03:13 PM
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Your are too focused on the outcome. You shouldn't have remade you account just because your weren't get result at that time. Honestly homie just take a step back and get some hobbies. Gym, going to the park, beach etc and if you happen to see something you want try to go get it. Personally I'm not a fan of date site because it's more focused on superficial value vs genuine value. Also you can't convey tone or body language via messages. Which why I personally like in person interaction
/r/seduction15/08/21 03:11 PM
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Just let go it's not wrong to feel inadequate, it's only wrong when you let it stop you from doing what you want to do. Please drop your restraint become the best version of you, you have the strength just let it go.
/r/seduction14/08/21 08:00 PM
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You are depressed because your life is not in order, yet in order for that to happen you need a job. Yet when you get a job, your basically sabotage yourself. I think you need to take a step back and figure out the source of you anxiety. Honestly I think the problem is that your are so used to being in a depressed runt. You are also afraid to take a step out of because it all new and unknown. I get it it's scary, and at the end of the day no advice or opinion is going to change that. Only action…
/r/seduction14/08/21 03:47 AM
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I think she isn't interested, I would wait a week and maybe ask her again if I haven't moved on myself. Don't ask her, but instead say hey I'm going to go here or do this and ask if she wants to join.
/r/seduction06/07/21 02:56 AM
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Agreed
/r/seduction06/07/21 02:52 AM
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Can you give us a screenshot of your conversation
/r/seduction05/05/21 10:19 PM
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Very true, but if you walk around with the attitude that you are a simple commodity then you won't create attraction. But if you instead walk around with the belief that you are a prize from there you can create attraction. It really all depends on how you view yourself. You are either your worse enemy or your greatest ally. Pick one
/r/seduction03/05/21 03:57 AM
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I think it doesn't matter: maybe she does have a BF or maybe she just wasn't introduce, but either way good for you, for putting yourself out there, like the old saying goes. You miss every time you don't swing
/r/seduction02/05/21 10:50 PM
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I have, but this whole "you are basically offering yourself to that person" is the wrong mindset, just because you can approach someone doesn't mean that they don't need to show that they are good for you as well, it's doesn'y mean they don't need to put any effort also. I have easily pulled away from an approach because as I got to know them I realized that yes there were physically attractive but nothing But also look at it from their perspective. Between them walking up, doing their typical t…
/r/seduction02/05/21 10:43 PM
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I read it, and I found some of the information pretty useful. I even used some of the technique in the book mainly the get two different colognes an ask a girl which one they like better. From there I started making my own techniques. Like wearing mismatching shoes, wearing a tie with a polo, pretty much what I like to call unique things. My favorite was at restaurants whenever I sat at the bar and I thought the bartender was cute I would leave behind a dollar origami like a heart, elephant, but…
/r/seduction24/03/21 02:46 PM
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What are you struggling in particular?
/r/seduction24/02/21 03:45 AM
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When I first started getting really into it was my freshman year in college, so I would just meet girls around Campus, or during one of The many social events The school hosted . I get some good results And I don't mean getting Laid left and right I mean that It taught me a lot and that girls really aren't that scary . With that being said , I am always gaming in the sense That if I see a cute girl I go up And they're talking to her And see what happens Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn'…
/r/seduction02/02/21 09:08 PM
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I was 21 terrified of women and had no ideas what to do or say and saw this super cute girl but I knew if I didn't say hi I would walk away regretting it. So I did, she gave me a smile said hi back and invited me to sit down. We were together for three years and ended it on great terms we just wanted different things. We still talk and check on each other every now and then. Even though it ended and knowing what I know now oh, but I do it again? Yes Because in that single moment I learned how po…
/r/seduction27/01/21 03:46 PM
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Honestly just think happy thoughts. Doing that simple thing will change your body language entirety which woman are better at a subconscious level of reading. Also because your thinking happy thoughts you will give off a much friendlier vibe which in turn also make you confident
/r/seduction24/01/21 05:42 PM
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OK one embraced the fear of getting rejected, honestly and I made a post about this before. getting rejected is just like dying in a video game. It's happens to everyone but it's also not a big deal because you're going to pick up that controller again and keep playing. Why because it's fun. I can totally relate to not knowing what to do, i was there my self a few years back. So I started working in women's retail and what that taught me is that girls at least mostly are actually really nice and…
/r/seduction20/01/21 02:26 PM
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You put yourself out there, I understand you're shy and this is going to be really hard. . . At first but overtime and with practice it gets easier and easier. I'm going to be honest in the begin youre going to have some super cringe moment bc you don't know what to say, but the only way you can learn what to say is by first learning what not to say. You say that no girls exhibit interest in you but honestly my dude you're probably so oblivious to this whole thing that girls probably have shown …
/r/seduction08/12/20 02:44 AM
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I had a fear that I was right! Right about my perception about myself, a loser, a nerd, not good enough basically ask the joker put it. "Someone who isn't loved". It made me cold and one day I met a girl with a simple "Hello" and she was great and my previous mentality destroyed it. We talked about and it afterwards and it was basically. Me "You were too good for me, you were going to end it eventually. . . .and I was right" Her " was that it, is that why you never let me in. That's why I end it…
/r/seduction06/12/20 02:00 AM
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I would say that it just doesn't effect your psyche as much which allows you to do more
/r/seduction01/12/20 02:29 AM
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Get over it. I am not saying this to be mean but to paint a picture. For the longest time I thought I was ugly and after many years I realized how many opportunities I missed out on bc I had this mindset. Not necessarily because I thought I was ugly but because I wasn't good enough. At some point I reached out to some of these girls that I missed out on and I point blankly asked so what happened between us. And they all said the same thing which was that I never did anything about it. So after a…
/r/seduction22/11/20 12:06 AM
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Adapt to the mindset if you see something you want go and try to get it And never break rule #1. Never second guess yourself
/r/seduction21/11/20 05:06 PM
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Well this post is in regard to seduction. Nothing else. The only real consequences here is you don't get laid but just because you didn't get laid today doesn't mean you won't get laid tomorrow. But you can only get laid tomorrow if you pick up the controller and play the game again
/r/seduction21/11/20 01:05 AM
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exactly. dying in a video game isn't a big deal, just like getting rejected because at the end of the day, It's just a game
/r/seduction20/11/20 08:32 PM
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You think you act differently but you really just adapt to your surroundings. Obviously you would act differently in a church then you would at a party but that doesn't necessarily make you a different "person". You have to approach them and adjust and adapt in a direction that you feel is right. Sometime you get it other times you don't 🤷. Either way you just try again.
/r/seduction05/11/20 01:37 AM
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Why not? The sooner the better. This is just a skill that with practice, trial and error you'll get better at over time
/r/seduction05/11/20 01:33 AM
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Yes, when I first started I found that overall I had better interaction with (I hope I don't sound shallow) 8-10 vs with like 5-7, I think this is why.The typical individual isn't going to approach the more attractive person, why? Because they're intimidated by them, vs with the less attractive one, aren't as intimidating so they're seen as a "safer" option ,so in the long run they have more dude approaching them, asked them out and more shitty interaction. Which is why I don't completely believ…
/r/seduction02/11/20 03:18 AM
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I think you're misinterpreting what he means, I think what he means is that he just doesn't care, bc he doesn't expect a response he already out getting more phone number and working on his game
/r/seduction19/10/20 11:01 PM
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