I (32m) just got out of a very ltr back in May, and I’m ready to put myself out there again. The challenge is that over the course of that relationship, I lost touch with most of my social circle. Even before that, I mainly meet people through “day game,” but now, with work and university, I just don’t have the time for it like I did in my 20s.

Some of my coworkers invite me out to bars, but I usually get cold feet and end up either saying no or canceling. It’s just so out of my element. Still, I know staying home and shutting myself off isn’t going to help me meet anyone. I’d really appreciate advice on how to break out of this rut and start building a social life again.