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[–]SpinPlates 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I consider myself a master of internet/text game but still an amateur at cold approach but this is what I do.
I usually tell them "You looked really interesting and I couldn't resist talking to you" if we didn't make eye contact and she has no idea im even in her area.
Or "I thought you were too beautiful to not come say Hi" if we did have eye conract and she gave me an IOI.
Then I ask a few questions for logistical purposes like if she's from my city and what she does for a living/school schedule. (To see if she's worth the effort) then I'll say I need to get going but I'll ask for a number/instagram and get her to come out to a bar or club with me some other time.
[–]Zoidberg22 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Does this first one work? I mean if you're approaching girl out of the blue, she knows why you're talking to her.
[–]SpinPlates 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I've said that before and closed.
What you say doesn't matter. It's how you say it and the energy you give off. Like i said I'm really good at text game so my strategy is to get in and out with a number and then text them. My cold approaches are never more than 5 minutes. Probably more like 60 seconds. I just appear busy so i can gtfo.
[–]ethical_pa 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Beginner here.
I would say neither. It all depends. What your style is. How you're feeling at the time. What kind of vibe you're feeling from her. There is no fixed rule.
When you are approaching a girl, especially a good looking one, she knows what's up. What I found works for me is just playing with it. She knows that you know. You know that she knows. That kinda thing. It builds up a bit of excitement and humor.
[–]mydogfartzwithz 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I want to reinforce and I hope op sees, Go with what you FEEL like saying. Women are emotional creatures who can probably read your emotions better than you can if you really need seddits help. What does your body feel? "Shit, youre cute and im kinda nervous," Reach out your hand, smile, shake it if she accepts, spin her around, ask her name, and if she accepts your approach with a smile and shes open, continue. If shes awkward and not open, say "Well I hope you have a lovely day" Some girls will turn you down because youre not "there" yet. Other girls wont mind and will be open because they think your dorkiness is funny
[–]RevolcFael4 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Care to share an example of playing with it?
[–]ethical_pa -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I believe I did this during my last approach. Nothing spectacular; just a #close. Like I said I'm a beginner. I honestly don't recall the interaction very well (I should have taken notes that same day) and I don't think it would be useful to detail here. Just a general mood/feeling. I told her she was attractive fairly early on, but there was a bit of time where I let the "we both know why I'm here" moment linger on for a bit.
What worked for me is the genuine, unashamed "frame", if that is what you call it.
[–]DavidGolani11 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Never be afraid to show your intentions, never.
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