Are the female oriented relationship blogs are so awful for any advice?

eddkov · 2013-07-21T07:03:16+00:00

Your title is a bit confusing but If i understand it correctly you are asking why the advice of female relationship gurus is often bad. I think the reason those blogs are awful stems from many things, women dont know what they actually want, they want you to do what they think would work on them, and they have trouble being honest with themselves and especially everyone else, even over the Internet.

I used to be subbed to /r/askwomen because I thought it would be interesting, and after being there for a while, I can say I learned nothing about women at all because I never really heard a single honest thought provoking answer, it was all generic and cliches and every single thread amounts to, "every single woman is a unique flower" and advice to guys was "be yourself".

Girls only remember the times when they were successfully 'seduced', (I dont really like that word but I guess its appropriate) they guys who tried talking to them a bit and who were awkward and shy dont even register, (unless you are attractive).

I would recommend staying away from those blogs because girls dont understand what its like to instigate, they cant really comprehend AA to the extent that guys who really suffer from it do, because they dont need to know. I would like to clarify that advice form women isnt bad by any means, but its generic and provides no real insight or advice because its something everyone has no doubt heard before.

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-07-21T11:52:10+00:00

Awful for advice to who? Women? Men?

I figure women want different things from advice than guys do. Women want validation for their ideas and opinions. They're seeking to share their feelings and get validation that their feelings are correct and appropriate.

But guys are more practically oriented. If they want advice, it's because they want to know how to fix something, how to debug a process and apply corrective actions. They want a solution.

Now this is a gross generalization, of course. There is a general idea that women aren't able to give good advice to men for these systemic reasons. But the exact reason is unclear. Perhaps women aren't consciously aware of their subconscious processes, so they can't explain it clearly. Or perhaps they just can't explain it in terms that men can connect with. So we try to bridge the gap with behavioral psychology. We interpret what women actually respond to, based on real life experiences, rather than what they say they will respond to.

Title	Are the female oriented relationship blogs are so awful for any advice?
Author	deepaktiwarii
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Comments	10
Date	July 21, 2013 6:28 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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