Are You Desirable? [22:04]

Doppleganger07 · 2014-05-07T07:22:02+00:00

That top five list is nonsense. As well as most of those other polls. Let me explain why by using an example.

In a study they did a while ago, they asked people what type of coffee they prefered to drink.

The overwhelming majority of people said any combination of these coffee characteristics.

1.Rich 2.Dark 3.Roast

When they had people perform taste tests to determine which coffee they preferred more, the overwhelming winner was.

1.Milky 2.Thin 3.Weak

Pretty much the exact opposite of what people SAID they liked. Why is this important? Because it shows that most people don't know what they want until they have it. The average person doesn't have anywhere near the level of self awareness needed to accurately gauge the things they respond to.

Consider this for a moment. I really like the move The Dark Knight with Heath Ledger and Christina Bale. I enjoyed the acting, the plot, the pacing, everything. BUT ILL BE DAMNED if I can tell Christopher Nolan what it takes to actually CREATE that movie experience. I just know that I like what I like. I can name some elements of the movie that I enjoy (like I just did above), but ultimately I know nothing about the actual process of making a movie. I don't know how the script should flow, how much dialogue...so on and so forth. And you know what? I don't have to know. That's my right as a movie watcher and not a movie maker.

This is why it is such a BAD idea to take dating advice from women. For example...intelligence always makes it onto these lists. However, if you walk into any high school in the country...who is getting more girls, the football team or the chess club? What elements on that top five list do football players have in such abundance? Honesty? Friendliness? Of course not. Or at least they don't have more than the average population of students. So why are they typically so successful with the opposite sex? Because they have characteristics that women actually respond to. and not characteristics they say that they want.

The football players is popular, and more than likely confident as a result. Athletic physique. Position of importance among the student body. This leads him to attract women...which in and of itself is another very attractive quality.

Here is something else to think about. The items on that list...how long does it take for a women to find out you have them? You don't know if a person is honest or friendly until spending significant time with them. However, most women know whether or not they like a guy within the first 30 seconds of interacting with him. Therefore, this doesn't add up.

This is why these lists are so toxic. It's not that women are lying when they say they want intelligence or honesty. They really do want that. However, they want intelligence in the subset of men they are attracted to. Not intelligence in and of itself. Focus on being a man that attracts first and foremost...everything else will fall into place after that.

This ended up getting way longer than I expected so I'll stop here....pretty interesting video nonetheless.

homeyG75 · 2014-05-07T05:18:44+00:00

For a physically attractive person, that girl is not good at being attractive.

demonhunt140 · 2014-05-07T09:52:13+00:00

this is a pretty good video. notes taken!

hcarguy · 2014-05-07T11:25:19+00:00

Not available in your country. Sigh, sometimes it's hard being an Aussie.

bl1y · 2014-05-07T14:10:35+00:00

I was excited when I saw it was coming from Nat Geo.

Then disappointed when I saw how lazy it was. Just full of thin facts and bad logic. Taking this down.

Title	Are You Desirable? [22:04]
Author	Indianbro
Upvotes	10
Comments	13
Date	May 7, 2014 4:56 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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