I need an opinion. Quick backstory: I'm 33 and I just got out of a 14 yr relationship with the mother of my two kids. (She cheated on me, after trying to mend the relationship for six months I cut her loose, a year later I ended up kick her boyfriends ass for hurting her physically, same guy that broke up my marriage). I'm slowly getting back out to talking to women at bars etc. but I always feel uncomfortable inserting this 'backstory' whenever it comes up in convo. I guess it feels devaluing. Anyways, does anyone have any tips for framing this situation in a way that doesn't make me look or feel like a doormat? Lol I've been in bars locally before and mural friends of my ex and mine will approach me and offer condolences, and I know they mean well but it just feels sort pitiful I guess.