Hey Seddit,

I've been lurking for a while but haven't sent in a post yet. I'm sure you get this question all the time, but I suppose it can't hurt to ask. I've been a chump my whole life. As far back as I can remember I've been the passive one, the quiet one, the shy one, the one who lets women walk over him. As such, I never really developed the social skills necessary to survive the dating game.

Flirting was something I just never learned. For example, there was this girl I was really into and managed to convince her to join me for a date to the movies. The film we saw ended up being nearly two hours long and we were stuck in the front row of a packed movie theater. Towards the end of the film, she started resting her head on my shoulder, causing me to think, "Oh, her neck must be tired." After the movie, we were walking back to my car and she draws herself very close to me and puts her hand in my coat pocket. As it's the middle of a very bitter winter, I just assume she's cold. I drive her home with almost zero conversation and leave her at the front door with a simple "Good night." It took me nearly six months of self-analysis to finally figure out just what the hell she was doing. I felt like a damn fool. Needless to say, there was no second date.

I feel like a nearly hopeless case. On full disclosure, I've been recently diagnosed with both Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Social Anxiety Disorder, and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. While I can manage the symptoms day to day, talking to a member of the opposite sex is more terrifying than having a gun pointed at me. I've had multiple panic attacks while talking to an attractive woman one-on-one. All of my past committed relationships have ended in my SO cheating on me because I can't provide as a partner. In two full years of University studies, I've kissed two girls and nothing else.

The kicker is that while I might be a shy introvert, I can command a situation or group when the need arises. I'm the president of a major student organization and the vice-president of a smaller student club. In addition to this, I can carry on conversation with friends without any difficulty, but the moment a stranger is introduced to the mix I shut up like a clam.

I want to change myself, I need to change myself. I'm in your hands, Seddit.