I hope this story will inspire others.

I'm 49, take care of myself, pretty fit, dress well. Until a year ago my dating life sucked. I started making changes, getting fit, dressing better and most importantly taking more action, talking to lots of people, women and men, making it clear when I was interested.

I'm originally from Seattle, one of the hardest cities in which to date, particularly for men. People are very introverted, a lot of women aren't fit and the ratios are really off, way more men than women. I've been living in several other cities and learning how to be bold with women and I've been seeing a lot of results, including sex with 2 women within 48 hours, which was completely new for me.

Here's the story:

I'm back in Seattle for work, went to a fitness studio, after a workout, had a nice conversation with the instructor, they lead you through the workout. As you can imagine, smoking hot body, very pretty, nice personality, I'd call her a 9 or a 10. I didn't really pick up any flirting. She's career searching right now, so, I offered to connect on linkedin and help with connections, career advice. She's 15 years younger.

When she accepted the linkedin request, she sent a nice message along with her phone number and Instagram account. So, I texted, said we should grab a drink and suggested a night. She replied back that that day didn't work, but, offered other days and we agreed to one. At this point, it wasn't clear if she considered it a date. 5 days past from when I met her until to the date, so, I did one quick text of something context specific, a different fitness studio I was at, with a "see you tomorrow". Her texts back were brief.

I got to the bar a few minutes early, made sure to have side by side bar seats. Texted, "I'm here, up at the bar". She texted back "I'm on the way". Until then, I wasn't sure if she would flake or show up. She shows up, we hug. I slowly physically escalated, arms, forearms, back, and after about 90 minutes of good conversation and lots of touching, I went in for the first kiss, which was reciprocated and became a bit of a light make-out session. We kissed several more times, held hands, etc. She had to go after 3 hours to feed her dog but we discussed my travel schedule and when we could meet again.

This is easily the hottest woman I've ever kissed.

My message:

  1. Be bold. If you see a woman that interests you, go for it, talk to her, ask for a number (btw, I should have asked for a number, rather than connect on LinkedIn, although, connecting on LinkedIn was purely about adding value, empathizing with her career situation and offering to help, next time I want the number).
  2. Remove the idea of leagues from your head, women don't measure us by looks as much as we measure them by looks. Looks help, but so does fashion, fitness, personality, dominance and other things you should be developing as you will learn on this subreddit.
  3. Consider every encounter an experiment and an experience. I may never see this girl again, she may disappear. I hope she doesn't. It's likely to only take one more date to get her into bed. But, I learned something valuable. I can ask out a 9 or a 10 and kiss her within 90 minutes. That means I'll hesitate less to go for the kiss or ask out a really hot woman.
  4. Age does not matter as much as you think it does. I'll be honest, I'm still trying to pry the idea that age matters out of my head, it's up there, it nags at me and this is after getting 2 early 30s women into bed and now having a great first date with another 33 year old. All three know my age, and have never implied it as an issue.
  5. If you are young now, start taking care of yourself it will pay off later. If you are young, also know as you age, the range of women you can date will expand. Don't get in a hurry to tie one down. I've seen interest from women as early as mid-20s to a woman in her 70s that messaged me through Match. Not interested in women in their 70s of course, but, knowing I have a 45 year age range available to me, is empowering.
  6. If you are older, and you are having luck with younger women, post tips below or send me. I'm a sponge right now and I'm not kidding, I'm still working on obliterating number 4 above.