I'd been rather busy with work, and was just frustrated with life in general. Add relationship issues to that, and I was feeling rather shitty. I had the following thoughts while showering this morning:

Focus on being the most interesting you that you can be. Don’t get too desperate for someone else — someone will come by sooner or later. Appreciate every moment, don’t wait for it to pass. Don’t try to be someone for someone else, be the person you want to be just for yourself; don’t try to impress anyone else, do everything for yourself. Don’t filter yourself or your thoughts just to impress someone else — always be yourself.

Don’t put the other person on a pedestal — they can only look down on you then. Treat them just as you would treat anyone else. The best way, I’ve found, to “own” a conversation is to assume that everyone in the conversation (including yourself) is an absolute idiot.

Make an effort to get to know the other people — physical intimacy is best when it follows emotional intimacy. Never focus on trying to “bone” or “get some action”, try to get to know the other person as a person for what they really are. If you aren’t interested in the person and are just focused on their body, then a relationship with said person isn’t worth pursuing.

It’s okay to not be in a relationship. Keep an open mind, keep meeting new people, and keep doing awesome shit. If you find someone, great; if you don’t, then it isn’t the end of the world.

Work on yourself, invest in yourself. Keep your mind and body in perfect shape. Life is too short to try to fit someone else’s ideal of a perfect person.

What do you care what people think? Be selfish. Be yourself.