Beating a Dead Horse I know but I need some help with getting over this girl

Flashwit · 2012-07-27T21:13:47+00:00

Before I say the obvious thing, I went through something similar when I was in college. I was stuck on one girl for the first 2-3 years of college, and as far as my dating life goes it is easily the biggest regret I have. After it was all said and done, I was extremely bitter and had feelings of resentment towards her for a long time. In reality, it wasn't her fault, I was just an idiot. Do not let this happen to you. On a lighter note, after cutting off contact for about a year we ended up hooking up one night and she decided that she (finally) wanted to be more than just good friends. I nope'd the fuck out of there and she is now FIRMLY in the friend zone.

Now, for the obvious part. You need to meet more girls. 1, 2, 5, 10, 100 more. You will be amazed at how quickly you forget about this girl once you start meeting more women. You'll be ashamed you spent so much time and effort on this girl, and you will never look back. I've been there, and done it, and it works better than you can imagine. That's it man.

Also, delete facebook or delete this girl from your contacts, and start working out for yourself. That is pathetic, and you're better than that.

smokintreesinatree · 2012-07-27T22:22:01+00:00

i went through something similar, except not as extreme. i had to delete the chick from my life for a year. no contact. no pictures, texts, calls, mutual facebook friends, nothing. eventually, i got over it, and you will, too. you just need distance. delete.

Gurk3n · 2012-07-28T04:07:33+00:00

Heres a very effective exercise I learned from a book called "words can change your brain". Basically you get relaxed and sit in a chair with a pen and paper. Clear your mind and wait for the next thought to come into your head. Write down that thought as well as any feeling or sensation that you are aware of. Then let the thought float away like a cloud in the sky. stay neutral as you observe each thought. after each thought take a deep breath and relax. Continue to observe, note and let go. Observe the voices without judgement. Very important point, no judgement. Sounds really simple but its a powerful way of mastering awareness of yourself which will help you avoid getting caught up in destructive emotional states.

Title	Beating a Dead Horse I know but I need some help with getting over this girl
Author	TheLightningnThunder
Upvotes	2
Comments	3
Date	July 27, 2012 8:02 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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