Anyone else experience this? When I meet a bunch of people or one person and we become friends, usually one girl or another will end up being interested and the usual assortment of things will happen. I have had maybe 20 sexual partners and all of them were buddies or acquaintances who wanted to get to know me better and I barely had to do anything.

But when I try any of the suggested approaches to women I haven't ever met before in various settings it almost always is a flop and they aren't interested and I don't seem to have any game altogether. Pretty sad, but from others I talk to it seems to be fairly common.

Maybe the secret to success is displaying an interest in a woman as foremost a person, and as a object of desire secondly. Granted many women are just looking for casual sex but they might like men (or at least me) better when I don't try and I just treat them like any one else. Hope I don't sound preachy or condescending, but I want to discuss my experience.