Stupid Title I know but it's all I could think of and it's true. I've been asked several times from my last couple of posts about how I have such strong confidence. I've been thinking a lot about that lately, about how I got to this point and some things hit me in the shower today so I thought I would share.

A big portion of my confidence comes from feeling really good in my head. I suffer from depression, and have had in the past pretty severe bouts where I wouldn't talk to people for days on end and just slept. I tried several prescription drugs and I hated the side affects then I made a discovery. For whatever reason, if I take a good multi-vitamin and stay on them I don't have any problems. I have talked to a doctor about it and they said it's not the first time they've heard that although there is no medical proof of this, and I'm not saying it would work for anyone but it works for me. If you suffer from even mild depression, why not try it, it's certainly not going to hurt you. I'm a big believer in the mind & body feeding off of one another, if one is not good how can the other be? The mult-vitamins will help with your body too, if you're body feels good, your mind will as well, we know this right?

I think one of the other biggest things that gives me confidence was learning how to look people in the eye and maintain that contact until they break it. I do it all the time just for fun and practice and IT WORKS. Last night I went to dinner with some friends, we went to one of those hibachi style places where they cook in front of you. There wasn't any women in my line of site until this good looking blonde walks in with her husband and what looked to be her mother and sister. She sat down almost directly across from me at the same table and her husband was next to her. The old me would have snuck looks at her and just kept my attention elsewhere but that's not who I am now. I locked eyes with her at the 1st opportunity and before I could even smile she broke the contact, not a good sign but it was just the 1st look so I waited a bit. When you're trying to initiate interest it's important you don't stare to get it, that gets creepy really fast so I just let her be for a bit and really didn't pay attention to her. Now you might ask me why I would do this with a married women, with her husband right there and the answer is well, it's fun and it's good practice. It'll help you recognize when a woman is interested and it gives you confidence which is the point right? Anyway, I leave her be for maybe 15-20 minutes and don't even look at her and then I decide to check and caught her looking at me, she turned away again quickly but now I knew there was interest. So I waited and within just a few seconds she looked back when she locked eyes with me I gave her the smirk, you know the one. When I did that, she blushed and gave me this cute little smirk of her own and I knew it was on. Now I know I am not seducing this woman, there is no way I'm taking her home and her husband is right there and I don't want to cause her any problems but what harm is there in a little flirting? She is flattered by the attention, and it helps my game and builds my confidence. It was really cool though because we spent the remainder of the meal eye fucking each other lol, I can't tell you how gorgeous she looked looking me in they eye and putting food in her mouth at the same time. It got a little weird for the table when I asked for a banana and started sucking on it in front of everyone but...<joke, you should laugh now.

The other tip for eye contact - I do it with all women, young old, small, large, pretty, not so pretty, all women. You can't expect to just do it with only the hot ones. You will not get enough participants to practice on if you only do it with the hot ones. Do it with all women, older women especially love it and it's fun to make their day. I was in San Antonio once walking around the riverwalk one evening and came around a corner and there was a large group of grandmas blocking the sidewalk and just going on like grandmas do until I very loudly said "So this is where all the beautiful women are hiding?" and you should have heard the commotion. They frikkin loved that shit, half of them were eye fucking me which is hilarious btw, the other half were just so happy to be complimented. It also has the added benefit of stating to any other women in the area that this man is confident, and fun. Unfortunately there were no other women in the immediate vicinity, oh well. Back to eye contact - I do it with all women, you have to! Am I going to seduce any of them?, no but I do it for practice and confidence. If you're not doing this, start now. It's much easier on less attractive women because they will make contact, some will hold it and almost all of them will smile at you. This is where you start to build, this is practice.

So I know this stuff isn't new or ground-breaking, just letting you know what I do since I had so many questions on it. There's info on here about it I know, so those of you about to tell me this is not new shut up, I just said that. I have another idea for a post on how to "own the space" you're in, if you would like me to post that I will in a few days or if you all think I'm full of shit then I won't, whatever.

And for you grammar Nazi's out there, eat me.