building sexual confidence

Weegoh · 2014-03-13T21:10:32+00:00

Dude. You've got nothing to lose.

The absolute worst case scenario is that you cum in 12 seconds, she breaks up with you, and you move on because she obviously was not the right girl for you and you still get the experience.

The best case scenario? You get to fool around with a really hot girl who is already into you. When it happens, be present and enjoy the moment.

I'm going to be blunt. Right now it sounds like you're putting her on a pedestal, that you don't have abundance mentality, and that you aren't confident in yourself.

Take her off the pedestal. She's a girl. A human being. She has needs and wants and dreams and fears just like the rest of us do. Treat her as an equal.

If things do fall through with this girl, then you'll be fine. Trust me. You got this girl and that means she values you. If she values you, not only do you inherently have value, but other people will value you too. There are literally billions of girls on the planet that you haven't met yet. Don't put all your eggs in this basket, man.

Most importantly, you need to trust yourself. You are the man. Tell yourself that every day. That one time that you made an awesome sports play or did well in a piano recital or fucked shit up in a video game is proof that you are awesome and you can be awesome. You just have to trust yourself. Be confident with who you are.

When you get into the bedroom, be yourself and hold that frame. Don't fall into the trap of trying to please her. You did the work, you, got her there, it's damn time you reward yourself for it. Enjoy the moment.

Good luck, man.

Stinkerpot · 2014-03-13T21:00:04+00:00

It could help to emphasize other things in sex. Your hands, breath, scratching, biting, & all of those other things that are great. As far as PIV, build up to it, pace yourself, take breaks to kiss her all over. You don't have to be a pumping machine to get a girl off. You'll be fine :)

digitaldefector · 2014-03-14T14:23:46+00:00

Unfortunately Viagra and cialis only work if you're sexually aroused. You're suffering the same thing I often do with a new girl where it's my nerves and brain that get in the way of your erection working. No amount if Viagra will help that. I'm finding that out the hard way.

Title	building sexual confidence
Author	dougwaffle
Upvotes	6
Comments	5
Date	March 13, 2014 8:37 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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